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My marriage turned bad fast and now I am just starting the process of a divorce. We have a four month old. As of right now husband agreed for me to have temp physical placement of 4 month old. I set the standards of every other weekend from 9am to 6pm Sat and Sun and one night a week from 5-8pm with no over night stays. I want to continue this arrangement for at least the first 4 years of her life. Has anyone heard of this happening or have any knowledge of this. If I have to get ugly I will and bring up the fact that my husband is an alcoholic and won't admit it.
I'm curious----Has anyone, whether you or your spouse, considering giving up the constant battle and signing away parental rights to the kid(s)?
My DH has talked about this a few times amidst our relationship about giving up his rights. BM is starting to truly limit our time with SD. We live about 10 miles (at the most) from the BM, but she still tries to keep DH out of SD's life (including but not limited to visitation).
Is this a normal response? And has anyone actually done this? If so---how did it work out (then & now)?
So our first session went well. We were give a few things to work on our own. Therapist suggest that DH stay at his parents for longer than a week. So he will be there for the rest of the month. This will give us time to refocus. But on Sunday we have a "family dinner'" date with SS and DD. We have also talked to BM (vaguly) that we have having marital problems and are attending coucinling and it might be beiffecall for SS to come with us. BM said very clearly NO. Unfortanally I think SS needs it. He probably needs someone to talk to.
DH is away on business until Thursday night at midnight and SD16 is continuing to sulk, refuses to speak to either of us unless we initiate the conversation and then answers with "yes ","no" or "hhm". She goes to school for a half day and then sits in the bedroom I decorated (we just moved back to our home state in October with DH's new job)for my daughter when she is home from college.The room is trashed, she took down all of my daughter's awards, pictures,etc. and never cleans the room or makes the bed.
I previously posted about my checking account being looked at due to identity theft.... I went to the sheriffs office to see if they have any leads. In talking to the officer, I told him who I think is was and why. He pulled up her record and found that she has been a suspect in fraud before. Also found out that she has a warrent for her arrest in this county. The problem is, she lives across the bridge in Oregon ( I live in washington) and her warrent is a misdemenor so they cannot arrest her or make her come up here.
Sooo.. the weekend was going great. The skids were the opposite of how they were for the xmas trip we took to my inlaws. No children telling me how they didnt like me or didnt want to sit near me.. or count how many times I laughed or why was I doing this or doing that (all pointed out in a negative way)..
So DH came home yesterday afternoon. We where able to talk calmly about what happened. And have decided to attend counciling, both couple, and indivually. DH has also agreed to start going back to his CA meetings, and I'm going back to Allon meetings. So we have couples councling tonight, then I have see my therapist tomorrow, then DH on thursday, then CA and allon on Sunday nights. It's going to busy and take alot of work. But I'm hopeful we can save our relationhip. DH is also going to stay with his parents for the week. To give us some time apart.
I had an acct before but never reached out to anyone before. I am hoping that this time around I can meet some people that can give me advice and then I can do the same for others.
I'm a biomom to a little monster and a stepmom to the most awesome kid in the world. His biomom is off her friggen rocker and if she doesn't find herself another *ahem* mental institution (her 4th) I am going to pull my hair out!
Today my brother called me and told me he met the husband of my husbands EX. The EX's husband came to my brothers work to talk to someone. Apparently he used to work there. So after name swapping my brother put together who he was and the husband told my brother that my DH's EX (his wife) is CRAZY! and that they are getting a divorce. He even had his stuff in a uhual outside. Then when he found out the he was talking to my brother he told him to tell me I was doing a wonderful job with my skids. (His skids too)!! So lets just say that makes me feel great.
HA!!! we got something in the mail from her attny. saying that she wants 100,000.00 and no less if he dies overseas. They say that we should just hand her(BM) the money for their daughter.. ummmmmm.... NO!. Its in his will(that is signed by a notary) that if anything happens to him that I am the sole beneficiary and that I will divide up the money with myself and his family( that includes his daughter) He told me that Im to put money aside for his daughter as a college fund and under no curcumstances give it to her mother and that she can have it when she is either 18 or 21.
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