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I bring this up because SS recently asked DH why I wasn't on Facebook anymore.
I mentioned here before that I connected with the skids via social media a very long time ago initially out of expectation that we would all get along just fine. When problems (quickly) arose, I stayed connected because we knew we were being lied to (a real dilemma...that wasn't my job, yet the intel was useful although frustrating/maddening).
I've gotten better than when I first arrived on scene, but I still have these days where I'm reminded that I'm viewed in a crap way by SKs when they ruined their own relationships with me. Honestly, at one point or another, every single person they meet or befriend gets put down.... so maybe someone else is the common denominator.... but How do you just not care when someone thinks so vitrolly of you?
Happy Hump Day, STalkers! Yes, the title says 'women', but this pertains to men, too!
While plenty consider this time to be a season of joy, that's not always true for everyone. Joy can be hard to find due to:
- Loss of loved ones
- Health issues
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Job problems (my best friend lost her job last week)
- Family problems
- Simply overwhelmed by the hustle and hustle
It's important to remember that THE most important thing to take care of is YOU. We've heard the saying...
I think I know, At least in part anyway.
I tend to put the onus on picking a partner of substance, character, honor, and quality. However, I do not often reference THE key part of the discussion. Being our best regarding substance, character, honor, and quality for ourselves and for a worthy partner.
We must be as worthy of them as they are of us.
If anyone else wants to air some grievances and/or join my pity party, please hop aboard my blog...it won't hurt my feelings.
I'm a lost soul this year. I lost my younger sister (46) in June and my mom in October. We have gone from a family of 5 to 3 in 4 months. (I have one more younger sister and dad).
What is it about parents who seem scared of their kids?
As long as I've been around, it's been obvious DH and BM will twist themselves in knots to avoid telling SS13 "no." DH is better about not giving in to SS on everything, but even he avoids the no. They'll discuss trying to steer SS in a certain direction or hiding something from him so he doesn't find out about it. But they never just tell him he can't do or have something.
Yes my saga never ends. Every year SO takes SKs to mass on Christmas Eve. SD let SO know she wasn't going . Her new boyfriends family is having a get together. Mass is at 4pm to put it in context. SO is so upset but said of course he wants her to enjoy time with her boyfriend. He thought he had one more time with her to do this. I know he isn't always as nice as he can be to me. But I guess this is a lot when your kids are getting older and you are losing them.
I attended my mother's memorial service via Zoom. She and my father has a lot of out of state and Canadian friends and family joining the zoom meeting but the service itself was held by the cult. I am persona non grata in the cult as I wrote a letter 20 years ago saying it's not for me. They are required to shun me except for immediate family that has earth-shattering news. Other than that nada.
I know I give this man too many chances. I do it because he does have good qualities. I just put all the bad things on here. But I don't think he understands relationships because of what he has been through. We talked a lot about the lie and I told him he must be honest with me. He said he worries so much about my temper. I will admit that I do get angry but it is because he is is hard headed and I think that makes me raise my voice a little and get upset. And just after this talk I now realized that all he thinks is a temper is my opinion not being his.
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