The last overnight visit a couple of weeks ago was cancelled. Supposedly BM's plans fell through and SS said he didn't want to come see his Dad. Well, he didn't have a problem coming to see him on his normal visitation day or staying an extra two hours...but anyway. I am going to try to schedule a lot of time during the days for me to work on my house so that BF and SS can have some alone-time together. We'll see how BM takes this.

Not much new here....DH called the school again. The teacher said Yes, she spoke with BM and Yes, BM was VERY VEHEMENT that I not attend. The teacher said she didn't understand why, and she thought that it would be good for me to come...but because of BM raising such a stink about it, that wouldn't be good for SS. She never said that I couldn't go, just that having "Mom" cause a scene would not help SS. Me and H, understanding that, set up the separate meeting.

I don't even know where to start, I need so much advise! I have 2 boys 10 & 8 and a SD 12...when we all moved in together I wanted to have a meeting to discuss the house rules and make sure everyone was on the same page. Everything I have tried to do has been pushed aside by my SD and her father...I am told continously that she is older, she is a girl, she isn't used to....now, she does whatever she wants with no consqueces...her father is either scared of her or her mother? I can't handle it anymore it is causing fights with us and my children keep asking why SD can do and we can't.

I just recently found this website and I am hoping it helps me keep my sanity. I am a SM to 4 children. They have nothing to do with their BM since she let her husband abuse them. They have lived with me for 4 years and my husband feels that we should have a bond like I do with my BD's. The other day my SS told me I was ruining his life. He always pulls these fits where he feels sorry for himself and his life is so bad. That the girls in the house are all spoiled and he never gets anything.