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And the next trick up the sleeve is........

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....BM threatening to move the custody case from our current county, to a different one. Can she really do this? The case has already been heard twice in our county. The order's been in effect there since 2005. The papers she was served said she is in the same county as us. From what I know, her address is still covered in our county. SS was born here, and lived here until she wanted to move over a year later. Now she is saying that she can file with this other county, because that's the one listed on her lease. We have no idea where the courthouse is in that county.

What does "best interests of the children" really mean?

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I have been pondering this question a lot lately. The courts claim that everything they do is in the child's "best interest", not the mother's or the father's. The courts claim that they are not biased, but I see a different story. Because of the way the contempt and modification hearing went down in May, BM is now convinced that she can do whatever she wants and it's ok. DH emailed her to ask if we can transfer the booster seat that she says she has into his Dad's car if we pick SS up that way.

Car seat question

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Can't really say that I'm surprised, just appalled that BM is fighting so fiercely over this issue of telling DH that he'll either switch weekends or let her pick SS up early on Saturday (weekend visitation is 6pm Friday to 6 pm Sunday), or else he will "lose" that weekend. As if SS is a "game" for her to always "win" against DH!!

Same old situation

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BM still has the brass balls to tell DH that SS will NOT come for his scheduled weekend, and it's "the end of the discussion". She also threw in that we could "be mad and threaten all we want". DH offered to take SS to the party as someone suggested, and she said "No, I had no idea of that?", and throwing it in our face that we "don't even pick him up". She knows that we do it when we are able. But either way, of course she still didn't give any info as to where and when the party is, things we would need to know if we're going to take him.

When do you cross over the line from being "the bigger person" to being a doormat?

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The latest drama BM wants to pull is the fact that she wants us to "switch weekends" again, because she says that SS has a birthday party that he really wants to go to. First she asked if she could pick him up early, and then she said to switch weekends. Although now I'm pretty sure she set this argument up, because she has now told my husband that SS "won't be able to keep his scheduled visit", because "he has plans that day". Indeed he has plans, to spend time with his father and other family.

Wishing this nightmare would end

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It's been quite some time since I've posted. Things have been insanely busy and hectic. Lately the hubby and I get up at 4 in the morning so he can go into work early and grab some overtime. I have to get up with him so that I will have a chance to eat breakfast and all, because once 6:30 comes I go through a whirlwind of chores, of course.

Yes, DH found a pretty great job back in May~ it is so close that he walks to work, the boss is great, there's lots of perks,he loves the work he does....we couldn't ask for much better on that front.

EXTREMELY frustrated at the system right now.....

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Ok, so I know last time people thought I was wrong for how I felt about the situation with BM, but today I really do need to vent and blow off steam.

Contempt of custody hearing was today. Even though DH requested me to come in to be a potential witness, they denied it, even though it says you can bring other parties if you feel it will be helpful. So all of this is coming from what DH said happened.

Now what's going on?

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Some updates here~

My DH hasn't heard anything from BM in over a week and a half, and SS hasn't visited in a few weeks now. On one hand, I can't say that I miss the head-spinning emails from BM that came every day. But she's further alienating SS from us again. There were a few times DH checked up on her, and it showed her as being online...so I don't know if she's just not checking her email, or reading them but purposely not responding.

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