Alot to say about BM right now....

Finally she responded by email. But it doesn't matter. It's the same bullshit, over and over. Now she is just telling DH to get SS all the time, and that if he takes the bus that no one will meet at the bus stop, he has to go to her house to pick up and drop off. She won't discuss a compromise. We asked her about SS coming to our 2nd daughter's birthday party this Saturday. The custody order says that the custodial parent is to see to the child's attendance at such things as extracurricular activities and birthday parties. But she still told my DH that the only way SS will come to this party is if DH gets him. We tried to explain how that would not be fair to our daughter~ the public buses start running around 10 on a Saturday. We would have to change our normal party time, around 3, and have it earlier, because BM said that the buses stop running in her area around 6pm. It would take an hour to get to her town...then at least 15 minutes to walk to her house and then another 15 to walk BACK to the bus stop. So we'd have to wait for the next bus to come, so we wouldn't get back until 1. And everything would have to be strictly followed to schedule, because it's happened before when buses won't run regularly...there's been times we've had to hoof it for a couple miles. If that happened in her town, we'd be stuck for a way home.

Not only that, we've told her repeatedly about the No Contact issue, where my husband is not to be alone with her or talk in private. She'll keep arguing for him to come to her house though, because she knows how hard it is for us to get a babysitter...so the next time both of us can go to her place may be awhile. And both of us are not going to leave our daughter for over 5 hours on the day of her birthday party. So I guess SS won't be coming. It's been over a month now since we've seen him.

The thing about this is that we KNOW she's not being honest about the transportation issue. DH saw her and her SF out shopping at night a couple weeks ago (this is after she said her car was totaled). Well, they didn't take the buses, because the routes are done by then. And why is it she keeps shopping at our local store, when the same chain has a store that's closer to her?? Almost every other week for the past few months, either my DH or his brother has run into her. Then she told us before that she's "not in our town" as much as we *think* she is. Give me a break! She just doesn't want to be responsible for transport. She told us awhile ago that everyone tells her that she shouldn't have to do it, so we don't *realize* that she's been "nice" and "giving" by providing SS's transportation.

She also said that she *wasn't* ignoring the emails, she "just got" back online a few days ago. What a load of crap! We know she (or SOMEONE) was going through her emails, because some were deleted (like an eHarmony match we'd seen...ahhh, but she's supposed to be "happily married"!). How did DH check her email? She gave us her password years ago. DH also checked her MySpace page regulary and she was online ALOT for the past few weeks according to her Icon....adding "Friends"...you can't do that unless you log in to your account and you can't do THAT unless you are ONLINE. Such a liar! But now she is again trying to gaslight DH by saying that what we THINK we know is "not the truth". Who needs truth when you can see things for yourself? What is she going to say next~ that it *wasn't* her that DH saw at the store? That she *magically* did stuff on MySpace without being online?

She even tried to cover her tracks by hiding a comment from someone who said that BM had clicked on the wrong link....to a new business opportunity, where her "friend" claims to consistently make $900 a week. And I'll tell you what~ if BM starts making that kind of extra money on the side, I don't want to hear one complaint about child support! But I doubt it's legitimate. And yes, this person was an actual acquaintance of hers, because she talks to her on the phone. Now hmm...why would BM want to hide a comment like that...and JUST that one? It couldn't be more obvious that she wants to keep us in the dark, that she wants to claim that she's "hard-up" like us~ no car, can't afford much, etc. But we know that's not the case.

On an off-note, we found out some *interesting* things from her page. She doesn't have ONE friend who is her age or older. I kid you not when I say just about every friend she has is 18-20 years old. She's 29. And the majority of her "friends" are also her co-workers. Now, I have some younger friends, but when you can't relate to ANYBODY that's your age, I'd say that indicates a little something about a person's maturity....because these people who "tell her" that we're wrong and she's right about everything, well, they haven't been married and don't have kids. So how can they honestly say what is "fair" in regards to what she does and says to our family?

What really got to DH is that her one MySpace friend has a page that is heavy with bloody pictures, and the guy is Satanic. Seriously. His blog makes an actual argument why Satanism is better than Christianity, and I find it disturbing that this person actually appears to believe these things. If this person didn't have a connection to BM and SS, I wouldn't care~ 'to each their own, just don't hurt anybody' is my basic philosophy. But if this is the kind of person who BM is telling us that she "vents" to about us and our kids, and they influence her thinking over how to deal (or NOT deal) with DH, then yes...that bothers us. Alot.