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Irritated. Small vent. sorry.

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You know what I hate? I hate that whenever SO is late picking up SD (which is VERY RARE) but even if he is 5 minutes late due to traffic or whatever it's always "oh you don't care about your daughter, you're lazy, you're a pos sperm donor can't even pick up your kid on time ectectect".

Well BM tells SO last night that she gets out of work at 11:45 today and will pick SD up from our house because they are going somewhere and its on the way...okay whatever. She works 10 minutes from our house. Pick-up is at noon. She doesn't show up until noon-thirty.

Would this be contempt??

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CO states verbatim: EACH parent is to have reasonable phone call time with SD on the days they are apart.

We asked BM to please use her reasonable phone call time before 6pm. This gives her ALL day to call. Now if we are going to be unavailable or not home after 6pm or shortly before 6pm (we only have a home phone)

If we call her sometime earlier during the day and at least make an attempt for her to have her call, since we are going to not be home, would it still be contempt if she doesn't answer her phone and we're not home when she tries to call?

Figured out why BM is being such a bitch the past couple weeks

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FMIL was doing some snooping and surprise! BM and her BF of 3 months just broke up, bummer. I had really high hopes for this one, he was number 5 in the past 2 and a half years :/ I was really hoping he would knock her up (not really, poor kid) just so she could put her attentions elsewhere. BUT no such luck! BM has stated numerous times that SD is the ONLY kid she will ever have blahblahblah. yay for us!

SD has pinkeye and it's all SO's fault

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We had SD Saturday and Sunday, dropped her to daycare on noon on Monday. On Sunday morning when I got up with SD (shes 2 and a half) I noticed her eye was a little crusty and swollen looking and there was crusted snot all over her face. So I got a warm washcloth and wiped her off. She had been "sick" the last time we had her 4 days prior (we AND the doctor think it's allergies, not BM of course) so I gave her a dose of her childrens allergy medicine along with her gummy vitamin. Her nose cleared right up and her eye was okay.

She just can't stop can she? Is there a full moon or something??

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Our CO states that each parent may have reasonable phone call time with SD on the days they are apart. SO asked BM several times to please call before 6pm because she had been calling after whenever and it interrupted our nightly routine. That means she has ALL day to call and speak to SD (not that she always does anyway but still) ALL DAY!

He didn't demand that she call RIGHT AT 6pm, ANY time before 6pm! (just so I'm CLEAR on this)

Conversation between BM and SO last night OR she dug herself a nice hole for our lawyer to bury her in: OPINIONS PLEASE!

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Continued from previous blog
BM:And since the times she is at daycare land on my parenting hours I can choose where she is or is not. Your parenting time ends at noon. That's when she is dropped off at the daycare ...since I know she is safe there.

SO:Well I suppose I will just see you in court then. I will keep an eye on the mail for the court date. And no, neither of us are "in charge", and I will not be taking her to daycare. The above letter was just a courtesy to you. See you tomorrow.

HELP! NEED RESPONSE!!!

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SO decided to just send an email to BM so that he could screenshot it as proof. (see previous blog for letter)

This is her response:

SO, don't preach to me. My work schedule keeps changing so therefore our parenting schedule also. If SD is not dropped off at daycare on the days indicated on the schedule I will call the police. Thanks

What should he say? Its not like the police are going to do anything but still?

EDIT: 2 more responses from her:

Copy of the letter that SO is going to give BM at pick-up tomorrow

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BM,

I am not sure why you have changed our exchange time 3 times in less than 2 weeks. Per our Court Order, we agreed on a 12 O'clock (noon) exchange time.
Per our verbal agreement when we created this parenting plan, you made it clear that if you were not available during the exchange time due to work, that I was to keep SD in my care rather than take her to daycare.

I have been caring for SD since July 1st, 2012 in this manner and it is my understanding that your work schedule still requires care for SD at that time.

What should SO tell BM on Saturday at pick-up

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BM has changed her "work" schedule 3 times for the month of August and all 3 times she has lowered his time with SD.

At first it was a normal pick-up and drop-off schedule, then it went to dropping her off earlier, now the third revised schedule has us dropping SD off to daycare at noon when he usually keeps her till 6, then takes her to his moms and BM picks her up from there at 8.

Case-worker meeting today was eh--what should our next step be (odds of her getting away with this)(REVISED)

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A bit of back history: SO and BM changed the parenting time (it is CO'd) July 1st from SO having SD every Sunday overnight and alternating Friday overnights with Alternating Fridays from 5-9pm to a 2-4-2-4 schedule. SO has her for 2 days BM for 4 and so on. I have an entire year blocked off on the calendar.

Well now according to BMs "lawyer" she signed the agreement under false pretenses because SO "TOLD her that he would NOT be working on the nights he had SD".

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