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Update on my crazy ass mother...

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So SO and I went to the courthouse and I filed a personal protection order against my mother. I was second guessing myself thinking that maybe she would disappear again and I wouldn't have to take such drastic measures but then I found out that she was just arrested for carrying a concealed weapon.

So I filled everything out, made TRIPLE sure that ALL my information (adress, number) was confidential so she couldn't access it and it was signed by the judge at 8:45AM yesterday morning Ex Parte.

Anyone here know to search for records without paying for them?

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I some of you have to be super-sleuths because one of you found me when I 'came out' a few months ago Smile So does anyone know how to find the following:

-criminal records
-nationwide adresses
-alias'
-marriage/divorce records

I'm trying to do a background check on someone but I REALLY don't have 50 bucks or more to put into it. And I don't want to give any of the site's I've found my credit card number because it seems sketchy. Thoughts?

O/T My mother has officially lost any lucid cells in her brain...please read and advise :(

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I posted this in my personal blog but I don't have anyone there that reads it and I could really use some support.

Long story short, my mother is a vindictive, manipulative, abusive just all around evil woman. I left home when I was 16 (long story short remember). When I was 18 I attempted to reconcile with her. This lasted for about 3 months until she snapped again.

What Part of "I can NOT wake up STRESSED" do you not get? asshole.

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So my panic attacks have greatly decreased in the past few months. I give the credit to therapy. My therapist is a gem, very new agey motherly type lol and she taught me ALOT of ways to cope with the anxiety. I AM getting better.

My thing is: I CAN NOT wake up in a hurry/'panic'. Ok well I am not a very good sleeper to begin with. I don't fall asleep until late but I do try to get up at a reasonable time usually around 8 or 8:30 when we have
SD since I usually have to get up with her. Which I USUALLY don't mind doing (bring on all the 'make him do its'.

I have lost my damn mind! Bring on the berating now... :(

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SOOOOOOO.....last night BM called SO and started bitching at him AGAIN and told him that she was NOT going to come over today to touch base and talk about the daycare and everything else. I could see that he was getting upset and not accomplishing anything so I grabbed the phone from him and get this: BM DIDN'T HANG UP ON ME!

SO left for work and I talked to BM on the phone for AN HOUR AND 13 MINUTES. I know. WTF.

I cried, she cried. I know she was just trying to manipulate me but I got alot of things off my chest that I really needed to say to her.

Trying a different approach to BM....she's crazy but I ALMOST understand

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So, I've decided to try a different approach to how I handle BM. I've tried it before and ended up getting my feelings hurt but I think this time will be different.

I'm sick of being bitter and hating her. It's not healthy for my anxiety to hate someone so much you know? It's draining. And I kind of understand where her craziness comes from...I have panic disorder and have been known to be irrational at times but still...

Sorry to blog hog but I am at my wits end!!! Need some advice and virtual friendship here (this is how crimes of passion happen)

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Someone help me please before I call this bitch and let her have a peice of my damn mind! Can someone tell me how they got custody please?

I'm sick of the games. I'm sick of the documenting everything if its just going to be pointless!

WE know she is not fit to raise that little girl. SHE knows shes not fit to raise her. HER FAMILY knows shes not fit!!!!

EVERYONE BUT THE EFFING JUDGE KNOWS!!!

What do we do?! This needs to be resolved NOW. I am NOT going to sit by and let that little girl be manipulated and turned into a fucking nutcase like her egg donor?

BM is a manipulative twat.

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I have a chest cold, I've had a headache for the past 4 days. I feel like shit.

So I'm TRYING to lay down for 2 effing seconds and who decides to call our effing house nonstop for 10 minutes? SUPRISE BM!!!!

SO FINALLY answers the damn phone and apparently SD "is so excited about daycare today and wanted to tell him all about it!" BM puts SD on the phone for exactly 20 seconds and then butts in about a bunch of bullshit that did NOT need to be adressed (oh their moving her to a different room in 3 months...FANTASTIC!)

Another post has me thinking....suggestions please?

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So I was reading through another posters blog and someone commented that if their BM took them to court, the 7 years of documentation that the SM has wouldn't matter because it would just look like they were bringing up the past and being vindictive or something??

Well then what's the point of me documenting everything?? So we need to file police reports EVERY SINGLE time BM is being a bitch or SD comes home with bruises or SD comes home sick??

Anyone in the West Michigan Area? Grand Rapids, Muskegon, Grand Haven ect ect

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If there are any of you out there, I've mentioned before that I teach Yoga but due to stress and my anxiety I haven't been teaching as much :/ Well I decided to host one more mindbodyspirit hike before winter and thought I would extend an invitation to anyone on here that wants to come! Smile I figure if anyone needs to meditate and relax its you ladies! Biggrin

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