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MY dh is wanting to get his kids from his parents. In previous blogs I let everyone know the kids and grandparents situation. I don't think the grandparents will let dh have the kids becuse he is not grown up. He told me today he wanted them back, this terrifes me. Why you ask, becuse Im scared that we will get them and I will be the one that has to deal with everything. His motto is he gets to do what he wants, and to hell with everybody else. I told him today, that untill he gets those words out of his vocabulary his parents won't allow the kids to come live with us. But what if they do?
and I have to stop and remember, based on his example, how it is done right. DH took SD16 to follow-up DR appt. BM had taken SD over month ago to appt with this MD, and made follow up due to some meds were trying for acne, and BM's desire to start birth control for acne and regulations. DH had taken SD to GYN last week, who did not agree w/using BC for acne and only in extreme instances of problematic periods--I totally agree with this assessment.
FH wants us to get married next month. We got engaged in May. We are not having a giant wedding, just a few close friends and the families. We could pull everything together and do it next month, but I'm scared to death.
I told myself for seven years that I would never remarry. My first marriage was not a good one and my divorce went on for six years and my ex and I NEVER speak. (a blessing!)
We had SS for a couple of hours last night & had to go through the usual rigmarole of what he would & wouldn't eat (sigh)
Anyway, my OH ended up making him a sandwich as he'd had a main meal at school using 3 different types of cold meat, cheese, sauce etc. I watched him eat it thinking back to my childhood when it was 1 slice of meat per person in a sandwich, mainly because being one of 4 kids money was tight.
Court went OK today, I suppose. FH came out of the court room, and burst into tears. (Not in front of BM, of course!) Apparently, BM's attorney made him feel like crap for missing out on some of SD's younger years. However, I still feel that it's not his fault. The judge even pointed out to FH that he made some parenting mistakes. BM took off with SD to Florida for a while when she was running from a Felony Drug Trafficking charge. A bounty hunter went and extradited her, and BM's mom kept SD the entire time it was going on. But whatever, they used it against FH.
I was out in town tonight and approached by a mom on SD13's former softball team... SD isn't on the team anymore but her BM still has a part in the "middle of things". So I met someone tonight that knows my FH and was complaining to me that the ex called her at the last minute to take care of a parade...which she doesn't have a child on the team anymore. Bottom line right now is that I'm sick of hearing about FH's ex not taking care of her own responsibilities and me having to hear slack for it...and FH not doing anything about it!
So, I called FH today and asked him when his EX-wife would drop the skids sport's stuff off...well he tells me that he talked to his ex this morning and said that she was in the hospital this weekend twice and they told her that she can't drive...so he would have to come pick the kids crap up. Although, I know she went to SS9 football game on Saturday (which by the way her husband is an assistant coach). So, what I'm thinking is that she had to go to the hospital twice on Sunday???
I have been stepping for 10 years and it has never gotten easier, only harder. It has almost ended my marriage numerous times. When it comes to his ex and his daughter my husband is totally blind and weak. I have never had a good relationship with SD. BM made sure to sour her on me right from the get go. BM cheated on my husband many times in their short marriage and even told him that she wasn't sure SD was even his. She left 4 times for other men then always came back when the fun wore off (dragging infant SD and her other child with her). He always took her back!
My DB and I are having time apart. Right now he is over here collecting things to set up his BD new room where he is staying. I'm not sure whats going to happen with us, if we will work it out or if its really over. Our biggest problems are around the way i deal with issues that arise in regards to the BM and the BD. I find it really hard not to get upset and then angry towards him even thought i know its not his fault. Right now he is walking past the window carrying her things to his van... My heart is screaming and its taking all my power not to cry and beg him to stay.
Remember guys, he's been out of work since JUNE. Today he got mad at me for calling him @ 3:30 because I was interrupting his NAP. While I'm at work BUSTING MY BUTT.
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