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So, I was on this website under a different name. I only blogged once but in my blog I changed sooo many things because I was so afraid of being discovered. But, I decided that it's too hard to pretend "not" to be myself. So...here's the story of my life right now...I have a question for the stepmoms (new and old to this) that maybe ya'll can help me with. First these are the people in my BF's and I's lives that make things difficult...
BM - she's a whole year older than I am (26) but she may actually be 15 mentally...
I am the stepmom of an 18-yr-old senior girl, as well as mom of two girls (college soph. & h.s. jr.). The stepdaughter ran away 2 weeks ago after we grounded her for a day for having her 20-yr-old boyfriend at her grandma's house. This rule was put into place following an incident when she was 16. Our rule was no dating for anyone until their jr. year, but her grandma was allowing a 19-yr-old to come pick her up for dates. Well, one night grandma wasn't home and things almost went too far.
I just realized after reading someone's blog about how everyone seems to have a pyscho BM. Well in my case, the problem is my BF. I've met and talked with BM on several occasions. When she calls I pick up, not a problem at all there. She tells SS to listen to me, etc. All in all I think she and her husband are good people. The problem is my BF. I'm guessing he still has residual anger when dealing with BM and her husband.
In one of my resent post I told you that SD19 has been driving her friends car without a license and me being torn about should I tell my Husband or not - well - today they whole story solved itself. SD drove up in friends car - saw me coming out the door and pushed the gas pedal through. I simply turned around and told my DH what he just missed. Now SD is sitting here and talking with DH. He confronted her and she doesn't even care. She bluntly told him she doesn't care if she puts him/us into legal trouble if she has an accident.
I've been searching for advice on the internet for hours. And while alot of my questions are still unanswered, one thing is clear-- I can't go on like this.
Some facts about my life:
I am 22 yrs old and currently in grad school.
My FH is 24 and while he has not officially proposed yet, we are planning on getting married.
SS is 6 yrs old. My FH had him when he was a junior in high school.
I feel so helpless...Its been about a week since I last posted. Where do I begin?
Last week was my SS14 birthday and it went well, considering I really didn't have to deal with him. My in-laws are great and I always have a good time with them. My SS14 looked absolutely miserable all night and said that it was the worst birthday ever. I really don't know why and I didn't ask...I didn't care nor did I want to know. It was probably something completely rediculous.
My marriage is on the brink of divorce. How do I solve this situation. Maybe I am wrong and I am not aware . Please tell me.
I married my husband 7 years ago. We went out for a year a few months after his wife of 22 years passed away. He already had a girlfriend at the time. He insisted that he was ready to get married and I believed what I wanted to believe. I was in love. After a year dating we got married then my life with him became hell when they were around and instigated. When me and him were alone together we were so happy . He was a wonderful husband!
Wow - I think I'll utilize this site now that I've found it!
My DH and I are not speaking at this time. I found out last night that SD busted something else in the house and he covered up for her AGAIN. I'm more pissed at him than I am her. Every time she breaks something, whether it be house rules or material items, he ALWAYS covers for her! He tells me I'm too hard on her.
The one common thing that seems to bind all of us together is a BM. A really ridiculous, petty, self-absorbed BM. I've begun to think: what made these women they way that they are. It's one thing not to care about us (the SM), but to make your own child miserable in order to make us miserable....what have you done with your life?!?! Why, who, what made you the way that you are. I can't ever, Ever, EVER imagine myself having children and then treating them the way that the BM treats these boys.
I've been having conflicting feelings about whether or not I want to stay with BF. There are many reasons not to be with him and at the center of it all would probably be his 5 yr old son. He is a pretty normal kid but I honestly think he's slowly taking away my desire and dream to have children of my own. It's not that I can't stand him, but I do retreat to be on my own as much as I can when he's around. I don't know how much more I can take. I can't imagine the rest of my life being so infuriating and irritating. I love my BF but I don't know if he's worth it.
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