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DH and I are dealing with a HCBM. We are likely going back to court soon to redo CO for visitation schudule. HCBM is a very greedy and manipulative person and will for sure be asking for more child support. I make a lot more than DH and she knows it. We live in Massachusetts. Does anyone know if they can factor in my income in determining DH's child support payments?
But things have been really good since SD15 has decided to remove herself from our family and stopped coming for her visitations. I'm not sure if you recall but the last time SD15 came ( about 2 months ago ) she started drama every day that she was here, she talked back to DH, she lied to BM about DH and ultimately created a huge fight between BM and DH. After DH sent SD15 a text explaining to her why her behavior was wrong, hold her accountable for her lies SD basically sent a text back putting on the blame on DH and myself. She even said that DH was "stuck" with me because we have child.
Hey, y'all --
Just love to pop on here and float my ruminating thoughts around.
I was thinking, how many of us feel a general disgust in even neutral/casual conversations with SKids? Do you ever notice everyone they chat with, Bios included, the whole conversation is transactional?
DH spoke to SD asking if we could take birthday grandchild out for a fun day and he was told NO.
SD said that he is family just the same as BM and he is to come to these family events with BM and her clan if he wants to see the grandkids.
He asked why BM can spend time with grandkids but he/we cannot. There was no answer.
So basically it is on their terms or not at all.
Will try to make this short. I am out of town. DH got an invite to go to SD's house for a birthday dinner for one of the grandkids. Invited we're DH, his toxic ex, her DH and her entire family. DH decided not to go. He has many valid reasons but mostly he just didn't want to be around the ex and her family. He decided that we would instead take the birthday child out for a fun day when I return.
Hey, my dear friends on StepTalk, subsequent to my post of 14 February, I received the following e-mail from my abusive relative. I’ve changed the wording of our names to ‘grannyd’ and ‘Mr. grannyd’.
Hey grannyd,
I have struggled with the words to come up with this past week, I am truly sorry to you and Mr. grannyd for everything I said and did. I feel awful about it.
She has a couple of social media platforms. I received this e-m today. We, DW and I, came up with the tacics we used to confront and mitigate the toxic spermclan. What we evolved to with the SpermClan is not dissimilar to what Billie references in the e-m below.
SS18's high-school robotics ream made the state competition!
Where is his mother? So sad for him.
This is nothing big , just have to vent. SO has a company vehicle and a car that is really old. I have a nice car. He drives the company vehicle around town in the daylight but doesn't like to drive it at night. I have issues with how SO is used by BM and SS and I don't need to go over all of that. It has been quite awhile now that I have told SO that I don't want him driving my vehicle to run SS around wherever BM says too. My boundary even if it sounds petty. He keeps trying to use my car and I have to keep saying like I will move mine so you can use yours, I don't have enough gas, etc.
I am running out of patience and forgiveness when it comes to SD20 consistently disrespecting me in my home. I am very much a non confrontational person and my caring and forgiving nature sadly has being taken advantage of too many times. I don't know how to break the cycle anymore.
In the 6 years I've been sharing a home with SO and his 2 kids now SS14 and SD20, none of them ever initiate a conversation with me or just a greeting. SS at least doesn't play any power game and replies when being talked to.