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but it's great!! Set out this afternoon and the cabin is unbelievable. Getting ready to go do some dancing at the nightclub(?), lots of nice people. Will keep everyone updated.
I am on both sides of stepmom. I am a stepmom to SS20 and SD22. My BS11 and BS14 have a stepmom also. My BS11 lives with me and my BS14 has lived his Dad for the last 2 years. (both BS's are with my exH) I often wonder if my BS's SM feel the same way about my boys as some of us feel about our SK's. ExH and SM do not have any children together and SM does not have any of her own. She has crossed the line quite a few times, but for the most part I have not had too many problems with her. For the sake of the children she and I have always tried to be civil to each other.
Today a friend of mine is coming over to visit. I met her at the hospital when I was there for attempted suicide (that's a story for a later date). It has been scheduled for over a week. Now my husband is being pissy cause he had to work last night and I have a friend coming over. Yeah I know he financially supports us and he had to work from 10pm-9am so he does not "feel" like watching the kids all 4 (3 of which he helped create) while I hang out with my friend.
So we got the letter, we have court March 13 for a bill of review in the BM/FH custody decision.
FH was awarded sole managing conservatorship (FC in TX) with BM named as a possessory conservator (visitation) in June. There wasn't a specified time for visitation so, BM stole (we had no recourse) the kids from us for most of Sept and Oct. then we went back to court for her motion to request a new trial Oct. 31. She was denied and got Thursdays and EOW from Fri after school til they go back to school Mon.
Thanks all for the support and advice. I was so nervous that my H and I were going to split, largely due to my moods. I underestimated him, big time. You're thoughts on this were helpful. He is trying to understand and possibly needs some time to understand the stress in our lives. Just wanted to say thanks...no split in sight!
Ready for a new more productive and positive day. Hope everyone is having a nice weekend.
I think it was "I am NOT his mom". I wanted to thank you all for your great comments, and since I just got on here, I figured if I replied to them individually they would never get seen b/c my blog is so old now.
To the person who said "Why get involved with a man with kids if you feel that way?"
I'm at the airport lounge has a nice salad and a great glass of wine. My flight leaves in an hour. One question before I go. How do I get a picture up? I tried but couldn't get it to do right.
This is a funny but stupid story. There is always at least 1 drama a week with my BM.
DH and I took over a puppy that BM wasn't supposed to have. I wrote her an email for the shot records etc. I want to take the puppy to get spayed. Yes, be a responsible pet owner and she doesn't even now what that word even means!!
I wrote her twice and she still doesn't respond. Well, SS13 told me because I was going to wait in the car until she brought me the papers. Told me that she didn't want me to get the dog spayed because she thought I would ask her for money for it.
Well here it is another Friday night. Wonder what time "Mother of the Year" will be dropping off the kids? Supposed to be at 7pm, but you know, she's busy taking them to movies, and out to dinner, on our time, as well as our dime. After they get here, what usually happens is I turn into Casper the friendly, dishwashing, laundry doing, meal making ghost in town. Such fun, oh what a joy! My husband and I won't have a minute to ourselves, as these children 13, and 10 can't even manage to get a glass of milk for themselves, not to mention a bowl of cereal.
I read a lot of the posts on here about all the BMs we have to deal with, and all the grief they give us. So I decided to write this to BMs with some pointers in it for them.
To BMs...
1. A lot of us have out own kids to mother. There are also those of us who don't have kids. We aren't trying to take your place as their mom. We can be additional parent figures in their lives and care about them and do fun things with them without trying to be their mom.