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Submitted by newlymarriedstepmom on Fri, 02/27/2009 - 4:28pm

Well here it is another Friday night. Wonder what time "Mother of the Year" will be dropping off the kids? Supposed to be at 7pm, but you know, she's busy taking them to movies, and out to dinner, on our time, as well as our dime. After they get here, what usually happens is I turn into Casper the friendly, dishwashing, laundry doing, meal making ghost in town. Such fun, oh what a joy! My husband and I won't have a minute to ourselves, as these children 13, and 10 can't even manage to get a glass of milk for themselves, not to mention a bowl of cereal. Hence my husband will whip himself into a frenzie waiting on them hand and foot until Sunday comes when from the time I get up Sunday morning, I start counting the hours until they head back to "Mother of the Year's" house. Whew, sorry had to get that off my chest. Have a nice weekend ladies.

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Fri, 02/27/2009 - 4:52pm

and give yourself a break from them. Take a nice bath, go out with friends, go for a walk, get a coffee, or do something else that you enjoy. Let your DH cook for them, do their dishes, laundry, and handle everything pertaining to them. Let him take care of the kids for the weekend so you can get a break.

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Submitted by yesican on Fri, 02/27/2009 - 5:01pm

My skids are at our home this weekend too, hopefully it is quite. I so look forward to Sunday as well.We have had alot of hard times, hurt feelings, and horrible dealings with bm although things have quited down, I still dread them coming and am happy to see them go. My sd (11) has a birthday party this weekend, and suprise dh has not gotten her gift yet, just found out what time her party is yesterday. No invitations or anything, I do not plan their parties as I feel that it is dh dealing, I have to plan my 3 bd's parties and I feel that is enough for me. I just feel like dh doesn't make it special for them and I go out of my way for my kids and I have been doing their parties when sk's are not there.
I feel guilty not looking forward to the time when they are there I know it makes dh very happy. But it seems like we are going full force all the time they are there and there is not much time to take a breather. I am truly glad we are just the EOW and Wednesday and not all of the time. I just don't think I could handle it, even though we use to be all the time but EOW. BM wanted the control, she got her cake and is eating it too, because we are very strict about sticking to the court order.
"Love is strong yet delicate. It can be broken. To truly love is to understand this. To be in love is to respect this."

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Submitted by secondwife20 on Fri, 02/27/2009 - 8:08pm

I definitely know how you feel. Every weekend Blabb (SD8) comes I prepare to be ignored completely. I prepare to be expected to be a slave without any appreciation or respect. I prepare for a spoiled child to be spoiled even more as her precious "da da" gets her everything she wants when she wants it.

How do I deal with it? For now I just bite my tongue (most of the time at least) and try to figure a way where I can not dread having Blabb come over on IW.

*hugs*