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I realise that I sometimes want to control SO's and SD's relationship, eg I want him to think more realistic about her...

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But I end up being frustrated since he rather wants to see her in the golden light.
I wonder why I want him to think about her differently.I suppose it still comes from him having treated her like a mini wife for years.It seems like a threat to what I find acceptable for my role here.
I feel she was given far too much power and I suppose I want So to realise that by opening his eyes.

SD7 dobbed SO in at her mums house again - and he still thinks she is an innocent little angel, great!!

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It is not the first time that happened - my quite smart SD 7 is a bit of a game player when it is about saying things to her BM about us and vice versa.She likes to push peoples buttons and get a "reaction" as So calls it. (SD seems to think she is an adult , listens to every adult conversation and usually tries to interrupt and interfere)That's one thing.But she is also very smart in using that information to stir up other people.

If you are the Golden Uterus, BM, mine should be plastered with pure Diamonds, I don't like you, silly lady....

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just saying.Sometimes it sounds as if BM was the "real deal" to SO when he talks about that horrible moment she left him.I know , I know....it was also his circumstances - he had just lost his job and just arrived here from England, all friends overseas, I understand.
I still dont want hear how special she must have been to him- he actually stated that her leaving him was emotionally sooooo horrible that nothing else and ever could possibly be so bad for him.And that would be the reason why he doesn't sweat the small stuff anymore these days.WTF.Shall I be happy about this?

O no!!!SO saw me typing on ST -and I quickly closed the computer-SNAP!! I really dont want him to know .... but it feels odd now

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In my name you can see who I once was, but I decided to delete everything I posted here.
I feel as if I have betrayed SO- all I told him is that I am part of a support group and that I would never talk to other guys - I hope he got that!!!!!!But I also feel that ST was giving me truly the chance to vent- and this venting is NOT supposed to be for his ears, but for those like you and me in similar situations.I actually dont even think that my posts were extremely harsh, but probaby harsh enough to cause conflicts.

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