O no!!!SO saw me typing on ST -and I quickly closed the computer-SNAP!! I really dont want him to know .... but it feels odd now
In my name you can see who I once was, but I decided to delete everything I posted here.
I feel as if I have betrayed SO- all I told him is that I am part of a support group and that I would never talk to other guys - I hope he got that!!!!!!But I also feel that ST was giving me truly the chance to vent- and this venting is NOT supposed to be for his ears, but for those like you and me in similar situations.I actually dont even think that my posts were extremely harsh, but probaby harsh enough to cause conflicts.
I havn't decided if I should take a break from ST now , but I am too addicted in a way.
Anyway it is a great opportunity to say thanks soooooo much for all of you you support, if I am giving it a break I will be back soon under this name!!
At this stage I am still under shock about SO finding out, as we dont have any secrets and I realis I dont want to have any secrets eve though this one wasn't anything horrible at all.
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can you tell him that this is
can you tell him that this is a safe haven for all of us. This is for us to come at the end of the day and scream out our frustrations. Almost all of us truly love our SO's and we want to love/care about our step kids. This is just our way of venting because well most of out family members simply dont understand they dont understand our situation.
DH knows I read here, post
DH knows I read here, post here too, he's not concerned enough to read what I have written although I get annoyed if he is over my shoulder because it has come up that since I've been coming here I get super empowered and it has stirred a few arguments. You have to have somewhere that's just for you, hope he understands.
DH knows I come on here too,
DH knows I come on here too, he does not have a problem with it at all. Once we had a fight and I vented here and told him so. I find the old expression 'least said, soonest mended' to be the best thing soooooooo here I vent!! I feel no guilt about it, DH is free to come read it if he so chooses.
yes, I was always very
yes, I was always very cautious, even deleting my history! Then again- I only expresses a little bit more verbal and emotionally what he already knows and what we talk about all the time...Still.There is no need to potentially hurt his feelings since he always always listens to me and did so many changes, what I actually mentioned here in any of my blogs.The venting bit is just so relieving here, so many times I know that I want to THINK and FEEL differently but it helps to be occasionally just a bit immature and leave it out here, instead of causing a nuclear explosion of surpressed emotions at home one day.I learned so much here!!!!And one of the things was to evaluate our situation at home much better and clearer and tell SO how I feel.Of course in different words than we use here!
The dilemma I am now in is more that he may suspect I am hiding horrible things of him which I never did and would.
I know the feeling on this.
I know the feeling on this. FDH just has NO idea what kind of position im in. He doesnt have step-parents, heck they are still together after 30+yrs. My parents are split, I feel like I know more of the dynamics. Hes the only 1 in his family that has to deal with this EOWe crap, and they are SO not understanding.
I love having a place to vent, and almost wish there was somewhere he could honestly vent as well, cause I get super sick of hearing about her. I continue to say 'you didnt wrap it, before you tapped it' HA! You should have known!
This is too funny... None of
This is too funny... None of you should have anything to worry about. You are not doing anything wrong unless you are embarrassed and afraid that your posts will cause undue hurt to your partner or anyone else. (if they can track this stuff back to you).
This is our venting place and it should be anonymous. No one can identify who you are and it doesn't matter that the BM may sneak and view your posts or find out it is you. There are alot of people in similar situations and it COULD BE ANYBODY. Unless you are using a screen name that other people know you as... be carefree and continue venting