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Is anyone here guilty of overpraising or coddling the skids/kids??The SO's or DH's????guilty parents?
The whole overpraising thing really sucks.My SD7 is constantly a "GOOD GIRL" because she puts away her plate like all the other kids/family memebers. (well meaning grandmother calls her that as if she is a toddler).My beloved SO used to do that in the past to a point she believed that every fart she was producing was so special.
He stopped doing that after a while and consequently SD is mostly a pleasant child, much more independent and less clingy, surprised??
most DH's and SO's seem totally clueless with their offspring-agree?
I don't want to find any excuses , but in the last few weeks I read so many stories about dads doing such a lousy job in parenting their children that I came to the conclusion that many of them seem virtually incapable of parenting at all.
I know, I know, there are many hopeless BMs , too, but it strikes me lately that those dads are really don't know what parenting is.
All this extreme spoiling and overcoddling....which is so obviously harmful for the child and their wives , it seems as they are helpless and truly believe that this is the only way to do it.
SD called me mum on mothers day, what do you think about that?
SD 7 and I didn't have an easy start and still face ups and downs in our family.Lately things became tougher since I was talked into accepting one week on and one week off, so I faced a few challenges to cope with things due to this.
In the last weeks though it seemed to all get a bit easier since SO really tries hard to support me/us.
Anyway this Mothersday, SD 7 insisted on buying me stuff from school and also wrote me two cards where she refers to me as MUM, which makes me kind of happy but at the same time gives me a funny feeling.
what experience does everybody have with family councelling?
Sorry, this is my second blog today.SO and I agreed to start some family councelling soon.
I remember some stories here where what the councellor recommended was making no sense and things worse(eg one recommeded that the teenage SD should still be allowed to join poor Smom and dad in their bed for cuddles, wth!!).So , my question for you is- how are your experiences and how do I get a councellor who is experienced with step families and knows what she/he is talking about?thanks in advance.
Whining Sd7 cries at bowling place so she gets to use one of those ladders for toddlers.....
She is playing with bs8 and his friend 9. She will win of course now,already gives everybody the winners smile,grrrrrrrrr,and being the extended limb of SO all day. I am typing this from the toilet at that stupid bowling place,wth
I admit that I am sooooo exhausted from SD7 today...
This was the first week of doing week on week off with Sd.Plus there are school holidays.Plus I have had some health issues as well.
Anyway, normally sd goes to her grandmother once a week.SO cancelled this since there was a new grandchild born from BMs brothers side(hang on , do they spend the whole week with the new grandchild??unlikely)BM kindy called him and told him that her DH's parents wanted to take SD7 on for a day provided hey get some notice,SO did not call them though either.
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tomorrow it starts- we have SD7 EOWeek!!!!!Scary.
WE are going from our EO weekend plus half a week to a full on week with SD 7 and then a week without her.
Initially SO was same as me not convinced of the new plan that BM brought forward and we both agreed on a trial.
Like a miracle the new arrangement showed up in their to-be-lodged divorce papers as an appendix now.And like a miracle he told me hat he feels now himself that the new regulation is the "best for his daughter".
How convenient, since NOW he doesn't have to discuss things with BM since they pulling suddenly the same string.
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Think I broke my Step talk record today, I am here on and off for at least 5 hours!!!!!!!!!!!
All my clients cancelled today, I didn't sleep well and have a headache, so what better thing is to do than checking out ST???But for 5 hours is a bit extreme , even for me.
My children "entertain" themselves outside , riding skateboards with huge cardboxes on their heads....!!!!!! :jawdrop: maybe I should throw in a tablet and get UPPPP!!!!
SO told me he new arragenment with SD was suposed to be a trial, but NO!!!
I am cranky with SO.BM was pushing the week on week off arrangement with SD7 for a while whereas we were happy with the existing regulation (EOWE and half a week)A while ago we had a conversation where he asked me about how to handle it and how I feel about it.We both came to an arrangement to start a trial of a couple of weeks at Easter.
hello SO did you forget how SD made our lifes HELL every single night?Now you are judgmental?
So works all weekend and I look after my 3 kids and SD 7, we all had a good time preparing Easter stuff.
Then all the children watched a family movie and that meant that even the little ones (7 and 
passed their bedtime and didn't go before 9 pm.