I realise that I sometimes want to control SO's and SD's relationship, eg I want him to think more realistic about her...
But I end up being frustrated since he rather wants to see her in the golden light.
I wonder why I want him to think about her differently.I suppose it still comes from him having treated her like a mini wife for years.It seems like a threat to what I find acceptable for my role here.
I feel she was given far too much power and I suppose I want So to realise that by opening his eyes.
He does the same with my kids.But he doesnt listen or hear me sometimes, thugh he is wonderful when I am affected directly by things going on at home.But if its only about her, he shuts down.
I come to the point that I want to let go of my attempts and instead focusing on being good for him, the best partner I can be.I am looking for opportunities to look away and to learn to let it go.Maybe a bit disengagement when it comes to him being like that could help.(I normally dont want to disengage from SD, only in that case though!)
I just don't want to feel frustrated, its wasting my time, any suggestions?
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she is 7 years.and very
she is 7 years.and very smart.