My BFs 4 kids have only been back from their summer visit with their BM for less than two weeks and Im already losing my mind.The 2 oldest are no problem,the 2 youngest are used to getting away with everything and never having any consequences.Heres what Ive been dealing with:
SD8 and SS7 never chew with their mouths closed.I have to to ask them to do so several times through-out dinner.This pisses BF off.Not at them of course,at me for picking on them.
Theres been a pool of pee on the floor to the left of the toilet for almost two weeks.Ive been cleaning it cause I have no idea where its coming from.Last week I showed BF a new pool of pee.I asked if the tiolet could be leaking.He said no.I told him I was assuming he wasnt peeing on the floor and the only other male in the house is SS7 so what else could it be besides him being lazy? I also said that he needed to tell SS that he had to clean it up when he missed but better yet not to piss on the floor.I told him I wasnt cleaning it again.He went to talk to SS who did a piss poor (haha) job of cleaning and lo and behold there was a pee puddle on the floor again the next day.I told BF about it.It is still there.
They take off their clothes or take clothes from drawers when changing and leave them on the floor.Now I know its normal for kids rooms to be messy and for them to have to be told and need reminders but Im tired of giving the same orders and saying the same things over and over for them to just do it again.
SD8 has been told by me on several ocasions to not use glasswear.Every freaking day she uses my Starbucks mugs.Every day I take it from her.I pointed this out to BF.He said he wasnt aware.I said "well SHE sure as hell is and knows better but still does it".
Which is my whole problem-if the rules are continuously being ignored doesnt there come a time when you then give punishments? He seems to feel that we should just keep repeating ourselves cause "they are kids and they forget".No punishment necissary.
I told him that if there wasnt a reason for them to listen then why should they? If theres no follow up then the house is just a free for all.He has no problem with that,there will be no punishments.WTF?!
I went outside to cool off and decided I needed to disengage.I went in and told him so.I told him that I will handle the basic cleaning,the cooking,the dogs and my kid.His kids,their messes and their needs are now up to him.I will only get involved if it involved my property,my kid or my dogs.Which means Ill be living in a house with their shit left where they throw it and Im OCD about my house so this is gonna be really hard.
Let them not brush their teeth or hair,not my problem.Let them only eat 2 bites of dinner,not my problem.
We live in his house.He told me this morning that I need to make other arrangements if this is how its gonna be.I told him that he can have a SM to his kids who cares and will be involved or he can have a housekeeper/cook who has no say in anything.He cant have both.Thats his choice and that if he wants me to go I will go.
Im sad for the loss of my relationship even though he is a selfish asshole who would rather let his kids be lazy,spoiled,entited brats than make things better for the sake of our relationship.You can read my previous posts to get a better idea of all that Ive been dealing with.
I know that we are better off leaving but I work full time but dont make much money and its going to be very difficult to make it financialy on my own.I also have a BD12 and I feel awful about having to uproot her life because he chose them over us.
I cant stop crying.This really fucking hurts.