I just posted a blog about Bm being served the court paperwork and the one and only thing she flipped out over was Dh requesting to claim Ss every other year on taxes. Dh said she melted down and acted as though he was insulting her by even thinking to ask such a thing.

My question to you, is it unfair that he's asking this? Dh said Bm kept telling him that the court would never grant that so now he's questioning himself and if he's in the wrong to even ask the court for this. What do you think?

Bm loves saying Dh doesn't do "enough" for her and Ss and that he's a horrible father. Well this got me thinking, what exactly is enough? For those of you that are Bm's, what is enough to you?

Dh has Ss every weekend, pays for health/dental insurance, at this point is doing all the transporation (bm lives almost an hour away), Ss has a room at our house with everything he needs, Dh has him in karate but only the weekends because Bm refuses to put him in anything and Dh pays CS like clockwork.

So we went to the lawyer yesterday and she was amazing! She was very honest and said that his case would be easy considering all he's asking for is what's he's been doing already for the past 6 years. She was thrilled Dh isn't in arrears, has Ss every weekend and that he's covering him on insurance. She advised that Dh should abe picking Ss up from Bm and Bm should be picking Ss up on Sunday from our house.

As you may know, we're in the market for a lawyer however we don't really know anyone that has gone thru this process so we don't really have any "referrals". So my question is, those of you that have gone thru this process, do you have any tips on finding a good lawyer? I've made some calls and I'm not getting calls returned and that worries me. We want someone that will communicate with us that has an "open door" policy so to speak... Does this even exist when it comes to lawyers? Dh and I feel so lost in this search... Help?