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Curious about opinions from both bios and steps. Quick poll.

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So I've been trying much harder lately not to be too unreasonable or expect too much out of my SO when it comes to his kids because I know I'm never going to win the battle. So, something last night came up and I'm just curious as to whether it was acceptable and I'm being unreasonable or whether it is unacceptable and the SO was being unreasonable.

Taking a poll...how old for these....

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I realize that everyone is different and raises their kids differently, I'm taking a poll to find out what age (or ranges) that others think are acceptable/ not acceptable for these things. Please answer with what YOU believe and/or how you are or were with your kids, not necessarily how skids are for instance. So, please take this poll and appease me Smile

How old is too old to:

1) Still be tucked into bed?

Just all my crazy thoughts for today....

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I'm having a rough day today and just need somewhere to get all these thoughts out. Even if no one has any advice or wants to comment, that's fine...I just feel like I need a shoulder today just for someone to listen. My problems aren't any different than any others, but I guess combined with the PMS lol I'm just having one of those days with a gazillion thoughts floating in my mind that won't give up.

Why does everything have to be "made up"....to the exact hour! SMH

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I guess I don't understand this and wondering if others are the same way. Whenever my BF gives up his visitation time, whether its because its something we asked for or if the ex asked if she and the kids had plans for instance, the time always had to be made up, and to the exact hour that was lost! Seems a bit over the top to me and I'm not sure if I'm overreacting or if this is the norm.

Having a relationship with one but not the other?

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I have posted numerous times about how I'm disengaged from the BF's kids. I don't live with them, but I used to take much more of an interest than I do now. I used to cook and bake with them, do crafts, all of us go out together, talk with them, etc. however when BF started shoving them down my throat coupled with the fact that he babied them, I stepped back.

Should he be telling me about his visitation plans?

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I'm not sure if I'm overreacting, being too controlling or if I really do have a right to know and be involved, but it's gotten to the point that when my BF has his kids for a week here and there, he refuses to tell me until I find out at the last minute by him not taking them home when he is supposed to.

Kids as mini adults

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I know people always say that kids are not mini-adults and should be treated as kids, but I recently had a realization that I always treated my DD (nearly 21) as a mini adult when she is growing up and I much prefer kids that way. I know it definitely comes down to parenting styles, but I think everyone would always be much happier if kids nowadays were raised and treated as if they were being prepared for growing up instead of the opposite of babying them because the parent doesn't want the kid to grow up.

Never happy with visitation?

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Wonder if anyone else's SO goes through this and how you deal with it. My BF currently has his kids EOWE, multiple weeks during the summer, pretty much the entire Christmas vacation (3 weeks), Spring break, every other day they have off for school holidays and any other time the BM just wants him to take them, yet he is never happy with the amount of visitation that he gets.

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