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This settlement is driving me crazy

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 02/14/2022 - 9:16am

Quick recap: We have been operating off a temp CS order for over 5 years. We have requested in court no less that 7 times that the judge make a final ruling on CS. He had not... until last month. He concluded, without any income documentation from BM that DH was paying roughly $500/ per month less that he should of and backed dated for 5 years. We have the ordered being halted and BM was supposed to provide her tax returns by last Friday- which she did not. There were also no other deductions that should have been calculated in.

HOLY CRAP- the judge actually listened!

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Thu, 02/03/2022 - 8:06am

Last week-ish we got a child support order from our attorney that basically goes back to the temp order from 5 years ago to current listing all the CS DH should have been paying this whole time and told us to work with BM for a settlement. The arrearages but DH 23K behind once I broke it all out on a spreadsheet. It was insane. 

Best App/Program for texts from I-phone

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 01/31/2022 - 9:35am

DH has been talking about wanting to print off all of his texts from BM. Apparently he has never deleted a text the whole time he has had an i-phone so going back like 12 years. He wants to delete them so he can clear out his phone, obviously that many texts take up a lot of space. 

I have a program that I have used for work but it's for androids. What have you used to create a PDF for iphones? 

 

DH texted SS about spring break

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Fri, 01/28/2022 - 10:19am

DH was telling me about some conference he might have to go to, which lead to talking about dates. Me wanting to go on a trip for my kids Spring break (They are with their dad) with just the 2 of us since our Thanksgiving trip got canceled (THANK GOD- can you imgaine if we had been in Mexico when DD was in her accident!! Unanswered prayers!).

Then he starts talking about SS coming for spring break. 

Me: (Trying to hide all emotions) Are you going to push it? Or just ask him if he wants to come and go from there?

Him: What should I do?

How to tell your husband.... to give up his son?

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 01/24/2022 - 12:40pm

I just got off the phone with our attorney. He told me I really need to get my husband drunk and tell him that he needs to let his son be adopted by BM's new husband. 

After full calculations with interest, the amount the judge ordered could be as much as 25K- however , the order says we are supposed to settle it ourselves and if we can't then we go back to court. 

BM offered before the settlement 10K and basically terminate DH"s rights. DH said no, that's giving up on his kid and he won't do it. 

BM1 rears her ugly head!

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Thu, 01/20/2022 - 1:45pm

Just had the first welfare call on my house! BM1 has officially lost her 5 youngest children apparently and decided to go after SS21. She hasn't had SS21 (autistic) since he was 1 and her next 2 youngest since they were toddlers. 8 kids and custody of none.

This is the woman who missed his graduation because she punched a cop. 

This is the woman who hasn't sent even a card to him in the last 7 years.

This is the woman whose own son doesn't want to speak to her.

Yet she accused me of abusing him and holding him hostage! 

DD14 issues

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Tue, 01/18/2022 - 1:59pm

I thought things were going really good with DD and I. We had some issues when her father pulled some crap a while back, but we came back around and went to counseling. Things were good.

Then when she was in the hospital her behavior was pretty hurtful. When her dad and I were together in the room she was really mean and cold to me. When we were alone, it was fine, her old/normal sweet self. 

After 5 yrs- the judge rendered his decision

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Wed, 01/12/2022 - 4:43pm

This is the most bizarre thing I have ever seen! We have been fighting for a judgement on CS and Alimony for 5 years. 5. Freaking. Years!

Our cowardly lawyer sent it in the mail with no heads up. It breaks down that Alimony should have ended in June of 2017 (DH paid until March 2018) but the Alimony amount in this order is higher than what they had agreed on, so I don't know what to do with that!

Then in breaks down CS for every year after 2017. We had been "shorting" cs by $300-450 as the years went. The order says to basically get with DCSE for arrears. 

Curfew- debate with DH

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 01/10/2022 - 10:42am

DH was irritated with my dad last night bringing my son (who turns 16 this week) home late. 

I told DH that I was irritated too, and would have picked him up myself but when I called they were on the way. They just decided to go cruising around and get ice cream and hang out- without asking me. So what we were expecting an on the way of less than 5 minutes turned into 2 hours. However- he is 16, about to have his license and will be out until curfew starting this week. It was my fault for not being clear on when to be home with BS and my dad. 

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