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Freaking SS20 this morning

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So about a month ago we were getting SS20's (Autistic, lives with us full time, BM not in the picture at all, tells everyone I am mom) blood work done. We found out his cholesterol was through the roof. Like 60 yr old smoker. The doctor is giving us 6 months to get him on a downward track before we get him on meds because he is so young. It is probably genes, his great grandfather had like 16 heart attacks before he died, grandpa died of a heart attack, DH is forever borderline with high cholesterol- but he runs 3-6 miles daily and keeps himself in check. 

20 Days until court

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We haven't purchased plane tickets yet because DH's leave hasn't  been approved. The judge for some reason is insisting that this be an in person hearing. We don't understand why we need to be there. She is on the line for contempt, not us. Our lawyer has all the evidence. It should be pretty straight forward. 

Our lawyer SAID he is trying to get it moved to a zoom hearing but honestly I don't think he is doing anything. 

Interesting trend with SS

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Since this summer, SS has only taken one of the court mandated facetime phone calls. They are at 9:30 pm our time and difficult for DH since he has to be up at 4am. 

SS answered a facetime from DH yesterday wishing him happy birthday. He was at work and clocked out for a break so he could talk to DH. 

He will also respond to texts from DH while he is at work. We have been seeing that over the last month. Nothing big or detailed but he will respond.

He won't answer or respond when he is at home.

Me as a BM stress

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Most of you know that me and my exH have a really good relationship. Our kids have always been our priority and we work really hard to coparent. 

I have always been the primary custodial parent and he has had pretty open parenting time. When he was local it was much more, when he moved 3 hours away, we made it work and when he moved 3,000 miles away we still are making it work. 

Finally a court date

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We finally got the court date for the contempt that we filed back at the end of April!! 

This is for failure to communicate, failure to give medical information, and sharing communication between the parents. We are also trying to subpoena her tax returns and bank statements for proof that she is lying about income. BM got served last Friday.

Best Advice

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I saw something this morning on a milspouse page and was cracking up. I know we can switch it up and make it even better! 

Give your best step/blended family advice to a new spouse/girlfriend - But lie! 

 

 

 

 

Mine: BM trusts the father of their children and knows that you aren't there to replace her, you will be instant BFF's! 

SS20 might be losing his job

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We honestly thought everything was great. Rainbows, sunshine and unicorns. It is the perfect job for him, perfect hours and right across the street from my office so I can drop him off in the morning. 

Well, his boss called me today. He has a serious attitude problem and apparently totally acted like an a$$ in front of the district manager. I can't believe they didn't fire him on the spot based on what she said. I told them if they have any issues in the future to call me and put him in timeout in the break room. I would come over and straighten him out.

OT- Chemo

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I know a lot of you have dealt with cancer in your families. Chemo officially started for my mom today. Over the next 4 weeks she is going to lose all of her hair. She said she doesn't want to do wigs or scarves because then she will just "look like a cancer patient". I want to get her something though... I have a feeling that she isn't going to want to rock the bald when it actually happens. Do you ladies and gents know of anything better than the "traditional" scarves that I can get, just in case she changes her mind.

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