Best Advice
I saw something this morning on a milspouse page and was cracking up. I know we can switch it up and make it even better!
Give your best step/blended family advice to a new spouse/girlfriend - But lie!
Mine: BM trusts the father of their children and knows that you aren't there to replace her, you will be instant BFF's!
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Mine...
ah.just treat them like your own. BM will appreciate that you want the best for her little poopsies. Everyone will live in perfect harmony.
Bonus Mom
I echo treat them like your own and in return the skids will love you as a bonus mom. You have the authority and responsibility to set rules and consequences. BM and the skids will appreciate this!
If you just love and care for
If you just love and care for them enough, everything else will fall into place. It's your responsibility to make sure that the step kids feel like the most important people in the family.
OH YES!
and if SD acts like a mini wife, do not fight it. After all she was here FIRST, never ever forget that! ;)
Dovina
Now I know why my marriage ended. I obviously did not follow this golden advice. *ROFL*
One more!
Encourage and facilitate the First family get togethers. Give them space and you should only attend if BM wants you to. Remember your place. Remember FIRST family is First, you are second. You've got this.
Make sure
To purchase high-end and brand name products for the skids to use. After all they deserve the best!
Make sure to plan all vacations and get-togethers / events around skids.
Thinktrice
Correct, and make sure it is your money that is spent on the skids expensive tastes.
Yes
Your efforts will be rewarded by showers of affection from skids (TM)
I thought you were saying
I thought you were saying your efforts will be rewarded by showers. As we all know many skids do not shower regularly lol
It is perfectly fine if the
It is perfectly fine if the steal money from their father. After all it is his job to pay for everything anyway!
Refer to yourself
As "bonus mom"
As a step mom you will never
As a step mom you will never have any family drama. Because your husband will always have your back when it comes to the step children.
Your husband/bf will always
Your husband/bf will always put you first and will never undermine you in front of the skids.
Always plan meals, outings
Always plan meals, outings and vacations by asking skids what they would like.....don't ever do anything without them.
If you buy any item at all for your bio kid, make sure to buy the same thing for skids even if they are with BM at the time.....they will love you for it.
if skids don't have a car, make sure they have free and easy access to yours at all times....and always throw them at least 40 dollars when they leave the house.
Make sure to tell your DH to never utter the word NO skids....yes is the only answer they deserve.
celebrate the mini wife.....let her (even at 13) sit between you and DH....always let her hold Dhs hand....don't ever come between such a loving relationship.
Voluntarily continue paying
Voluntarily continue paying spousal support even after court ordered support ended. And if BM dies, volunteer to send that money to adult skids.
As my formerSO's mother would
As my formerSO's mother would say: "Just love them like they need to be loved and everything will be fiiiiiine".
And by loving them like they need to be loved, she meant acting like a slave doing anything they want exactly when they want it and spending all of your money on everything their little black hearts desire immediately.
Remember, kids come first!
Remember, kids come first! Also, the BM (or BMs) also, because they were "in the picture" before you ever came along!