OT- Chemo
I know a lot of you have dealt with cancer in your families. Chemo officially started for my mom today. Over the next 4 weeks she is going to lose all of her hair. She said she doesn't want to do wigs or scarves because then she will just "look like a cancer patient". I want to get her something though... I have a feeling that she isn't going to want to rock the bald when it actually happens. Do you ladies and gents know of anything better than the "traditional" scarves that I can get, just in case she changes her mind. I don't want to push anything on her but to have it just in case...
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She may find she gets cold more easily
and a head cover can help with that. There are many options with beanies or slouchy hats. Saw some nice ones on Etsy.
is she a ball cap wearer?
Not a ball cap wearer but I
Not a ball cap wearer but I didn't even think to look on Etsy! Thanks for the idea!
Cute hats
My mother bought cute hats. She also got a friend of my sister's who is a milliner to make her a couple. In the end she didn't lose her hair and was actually disappointed because the made to measure hats had been designed to fit her without hair so she never got a chance to wear them without them being too tight.
Especially with winter coming soon a hat will be "normal"
Hugs to you and your mom in this difficult time. I hope she is as successful in her treatments as my mother.
The nurse told her today that
The nurse told her today that it was going to happen and fast with the type of chemo she is getting. It would be nice if it didn't happen.
I agree that a soft hat wouldn't look out of the norm here shortly anyway.
There are some ideas on this site
They go beyond the basic beanie or ball cap.
https://www.blarney.com/hats/
My sister had Leukemia, my 2
My sister had Leukemia, my 2 girlfriends had breast cancer. They all decided to go with wigs. Not before treatment but during it. So, your Mom may change her mind. Right now it may be too much for her to process..
Have you checked out this link?
https://www.headcovers.com/
They seem to have it all.
*edit to add* my brother never lost his hair during or after months of mega chemo for Pancreatic cancer. Everyone was shocked.
I acutally just found this
I acutally just found this one when I was searching, they seem like they kind of have it all. Maybe I will try a few styles for her.
When I lost my hair due to chemo,
When I lost my hair due to chemo, I got a wig - but it felt so foreign that I only wore it if I "dressed up" for some reason. I wore different colored baseball caps that matched my outfits. I didn't like scarves because I could never seem to get them wrapped right and it took to much time. Beanies or slouch hats might work for your mom. They also may special hats specifically for women that tie in the back and are easy to put on like baseball caps.
She will need some sort of a cap for sleeping. My head would get cold at night and I slept with a light beanie.
The woman who sold me the wig said that bigger earrings are a good idea while wearing scarves or hats, because they kind of fill in the space where your hair would normally be.
Warn your Mom that she will loose her hair everywhere. Losing your eyebrows really changes the way your face looks. I never bothered with makeup, but some women feel better using brow liner.
I had long, thick hair and it was the one feature that made me feel pretty - so losing it was traumatic. It doesn't all come out at once, you start finding big chunks on the pillow. At that point, I went and had my head shaved. It was easier for me to get it all over at once. I kept some of the hair. I'm glad I did that, because when it grew back the texture and color were a bit different. Now that I color the gray away - I used some of my old hair so my stylist could match the color.
Do you know if the type of chemo she will be getting will cause nausea? If so, PM me for some info on anti-nausea meds and food choices.
Yes yes yes about eyebrows.
Yes yes yes about eyebrows.
I will PM you! Thank you!
I will PM you! Thank you!
Does your Mum have any sport
Does your Mum have any sport teams or hobbies she loves? Caps always look great with hair or no hair, IMO. Earrings always look good too. What ever she wants is always what you will do. What she really will need is you telling her how beautiful she is. Kind and loving words. Not that I need to tell you that. I am sorry your Mum is going through this difficult time in her life. Prayers to her and all your family.<3
Mask and scrub hats/skull caps
Etsy.com/ shop/ SEWXCITEDbyRandy
Soft and cute beanies would
Soft and cute beanies would be nice. Hope things go well with your mother.
Hugs to your mom
Sending some positive thoughts her way during this stressful time.
My grandmother loved her wigs, but they needed to be styled over and over again. I like beanies myself.
My insurance covered the cost
My insurance covered the cost of a wig so I got one but only wore it a handful of times. It just never felt like me. I had a few scarves and wore bandanas most of the time.
I've had long hair for a long time and losing it was pretty traumatic. I had so many people trying to be positive saying I might not lose it or it might just get thin so I waited hoping and that was so much worse. I ended up looking like smeigel from Lord of the rings. I can remember crying in the shower with clumps coming out. It was truly awful.
If I had to do it again I would have fun with it and dye it some crazy color and shave it as soon as it started coming out. For me it wasn't until my 3rd round that I started coming out really bad.
I'm not a big makeup person but I did feel better drawing on eyebrows. It made me feel more normal.
Offer to do errands for your mom like grocery shopping. I hated people stopping me and asking if I had cancer. I didn't want to talk about it even with close friends honestly. I just wanted to pretend it wasn't happening and be treated normal.
That is how she feels.
That is how she feels. Unfortunately the nurse told her that she would lose her hair with this type, she said no one keeps it.
I will offer my help as much as possible but like you she wants to pretend it isn't happening. Thank God for grocery delivery services!