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I just need a f'ing break! last week let me know how good it could be!!

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Submitted by vgill on Tue, 03/09/2010 - 9:56pm

Last week was March break and SS12 spent the whole week with BM!! It was wonderfull!! no fighting everyone helped out, we had soo much fun because we didn't have to deal with his bull shit, it was just such a calm and peacefull week! Now thAT HE IS HOME HE JUST REINS CHAOS ON EVERYONE AND EVERYTHING!! I need him to go!

WOW!!! Thanks for all your responses, But I think the American system is totally screwed up in regards to support payments!!!!

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Submitted by vgill on Sun, 02/28/2010 - 10:07am

I don't mean to offend anyone but WOW! I don't know how anyone can make it with a divorce in the USA!! I live in Canada, and yes we may have high tax rate but, your laws are soo crazy I don't know how you live! First of all you have your health insurance, that is soo expensive, then yours laws regarding something soo universal as families differ so much not only from state to state but from county to county, I just think that a standardized set of laws for the whole country would help out more parents. I totally think you guys need medicare!

POLL!!!! How many people here are Americans and how many are Canadians, and how many are Other?

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Submitted by vgill on Thu, 02/25/2010 - 6:12am

I have been reading blogs and I am curious, it just seems to me that people who live in the USA have more financial problems with a divorce than those who live in Cananda. I believe ther is quite a difference between the 2 countries divorce laws where support payments are concerened.

what do you think of this approach?

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Submitted by vgill on Sun, 02/07/2010 - 1:39pm

I was thinking of just letting her know about what the teachers are saying about his anger and low selfesteem which usually stems from a feeling of abandonment by BM and low feelings of selfworth as is often the case ecspecially with teen boys as "what is so wrong with me that even my own mother doesn't want me". Also a big reason he feels he needs to be hateful to both DH and I are to see if we will leave him too.

Question, I am considering calling BM about ss12!

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Submitted by vgill on Sun, 02/07/2010 - 12:05pm

I am thinking about calling BM and letting her know (politely) that it may be a good idea if SS12 lives with her for a while, as it may be good for him. What do you think I know this is kinda DH's territory but he wouldn't do it, he is to afraid of losing his son to BM, and I tell you he is already lost! she has been coaching and pressuring SS12 for the last 5 years and he has made life miserable for me and DH and DH will admitt this is the truth!

I think it's working!!! Yeah!!!

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Submitted by vgill on Sun, 02/07/2010 - 11:46am

SS12 went to his BM's house this weekend and it is not his weekend to go, perhaps he is getting the hint that he is not wanted in a house where he treats everyone like shit!!! SS14 is here and it hasn't been that bad of a weekend but I think last night he was high and I think he was smoking this morning, but that's not my problem it's his mothers. But otherwise he has been well behaved! wierd! perhaps now SS12 will move to his BM's house when realizes I'm not gonna be nice to someone who treats me like dogshit!

Perhaps I am wrong but I think I found away to deal!

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Submitted by vgill on Thu, 02/04/2010 - 9:02pm

Tell me if I am wrong but the only way I can seem to get through the day with SS12 is to completely ignore his existance! I say no more that 5 words to him all day, and I don't look at him, and I have been doing this for about 2 weeks, and on occaision I am baited into one of his planned fights but I usually catch myself before it gets to far. But if I don't even acknowledge him he actually doesn't scream and swear at me! And if he tries I simply walk away, turn on the TV, turn up the radio, or start talking to someone else like I never heard him.

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