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SD's gift to me

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A pack of hair ties? And a card that says. " happy mother's day . Thanks for having my sister and being her mom. I don't hate you .sorry we don't really get along but I don't hate you. sencircly,SD16".

Um well that was sweet SD thanks for having your dad give me that. Much better than the eyeroll tooth suck I usually get on holidays.

SD using my personal toy

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DH asked me to look in SD16's room for er backup phone charger because she didn't take it with her. I was looking in her dresser drawers and found one of my personal toys.

I promise you it was mines and not something she could have just picked up at the store herself. I won't be telling DH about it or confronting her about it. I just threw it away. Going to pretend I never found it. She doesn't live here anymore but still. Of all the things she has stolen from me how disgusting. Really.

Update

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After SD's false report of abuse to police. And after pouring out my heart to DH and letting him no under any circumstances there is just absolutely no way I can live in the same house as SD we cam to a conclusion. DH is going to sublease a place just until summer and stay there with SD and really try to work on their relationship and get into her head. DD and I will continue to stay in our own home while mommy works from home and gives her lots of love and attention. DH and I are going to skype and phone call a lot and have date nights while SD16 will be be at BMs.

SD got police called on me.

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I haven't posted in a while since SD ran away with a boy. She did end up going to BM's house after being missing for almost two days. I have been trying so hard to disengage because I just can no longer take any of it mentally or emotionally. She was back home with BM for a while but BM couldn't handle her so DH stepped up. Things in my life where finally normal for once ina long time and I could really enjoy my marriage and DD without constant stress. But I reluctantly told DH I was ok with her coming back as long as she has got her act together until she turns 18.

SD16 RAN AWAY

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My stomach is in knots right now. We caught her sneaking out and told her she would be in big trouble after school. But she didn't come home. She texted BM not to worry about her. Its been a full day since we last saw her.The police spent the night patrolling the area to no avail.

Her friends told us she got picked up by an older guy but they don't know his name or where he lives. We have been going th through her computer and trying to pull up phone records. DH has taken every thing we have. Learned to the sheriff's office.

Poop all over me

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Whyyyyyy DD whyyyy. I had to share. DH had just gotten done bathing DD. He has a bad back so he asked me to reach under the changing table for the diapers. He was holding her in his arms. I hear him yell oh no. I jump up and feel poop spilling on me. All over my hair and shirt. DH got it all over his arm. He just stood there in shock. I had to yell at him to lay DD down. SD came into the room and started laughing. She actually offered to clean DD off. Im laughing thinking about it. But in the moment i was mortified. Oh the joys of parenthood.

SD15 pushed me to the edge over laundry.

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SHe likes to let her laundry pile up for weeks then tries to stuff it all in the laundry machine. I needed to get DD's cloth diapers clean and dry quick because she was running low. I open the machine to mildew smelling over packed mess. I hate it when she just throws her laundry in the machine over stuffs it and doesn't bother to turn it on until someone else needs it. I ask her to come do her laundry so I can clean DD's. She comes stomping in with an attitude and starts pressing the buttons extra slow.

Past bully re-entering my life. How I handled it with kindness

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Sh belittled me, spread lies about me and acted like I was the lowest life form around. It hurt then but I grew into myself as a woman and moved on. She added me on Facebook not to long ago and apologized. I let the past stay in the past but I didn't forget what she had done.

SD threatening to harm herself if DH takes her phone.

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She has failed the school year. Not one grade above a D. She was doing good earlier but just got lazy. DH told her to hand over the phone because she is grounded grades are nothing to be played with. Its not like she tries so hard and fails its that she doesn't try gets home and jumps on the computer and cell phone. Always saying she doesn't have homework the same thing at BM's house. She ignored DH so he snatched the phone right out of her hand. She got hysterical and threatened to kill herself or run away if he took her phone. I mean she was acting insane.

SD and fat shaming

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SD and I have been going to the gym together so that I can get back to my pre-baby weight and she can tone up and get back into a healthy weight range for her height and age. Well she has already lost almost 10 pounds. Now she thinks she is the it girl. If we are walking through a store she will whisper about people and how they need to work out and stop buying junk. She is not a good whisperer. If an overweight person passes her on the street she will gag. She has even made comments loud enough for others to hear about how being fat is disgusting because its something they can change.

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