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It feels like forever

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I am having a problem with our custody situation that is much different than most SMs on this site.  The fact is that my SD14 moved out of our home and back in with BM.  She was supposed to start living with BM last year, but due to a CPS case, she had to come back to us.  I am so grateful that we got that extra year, as SD really bonded with DD1 and our new baby.  She also finished off the year with honors.

BM's Obsession

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BM's obsesssion with my DH has been obvious for some time.  She hates my DH and actively tries to sabotage his relationship with both SDs.  But in a weird twisted way, she also loves my DH and wants his attention. If you read my last blog, you saw that DH was going to let SD13 live with BM after the CPS allegations.  However, BM was also investigated and her house was deemed unlivable.  This is the second house that she has been kicked out of.  As a result, she lost her kids.  My SD13 came back to live with us.  SD16 went to live with an aunt.

 

BM crossed a line and it is over

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Yesterday, I had 4 cops show up at my house.  One was from CPS.  The others were just responding to a welfare check.  Apparently, BM called the hotline again.  This time she accused my 7 yead old DD of molesting SD12.  Even the cops laughed at the allegation, as my 7 year old is half the size of SD12 and you know, she is 7.  There was a swcond set of allegations against me and DH.  None of them claim actual abuse.  CPS and the cops had to investigate the claim but all agreed this has crossed the line into harassment.  So CPS is planning to file false allegation charges against BM.  That is

When does it stop?

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My last blog was about BM and SD16 calling CPS on me and DH, claiming that we starved and abused SD16.  CPS came out to our house and interviewed my Bios and DH.  They told DH that they would not be investigating because neither child was here so they can't investigate.  However, if BM reports us again when SD13 is here, they will have to investigate the claims.  Of course, they also told BM this, so I guarantee they will be knocking on our door again in a few weeks.  The only thing I don't understand is that the CPS worker gave us a copy of the allegations.  All of the allegations are abou

CPS at my house

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I am so furious right now.  A few days ago, a cop showed up at our door with a CPS worker in tow.  They wanted to speak to SD12, who is not here.  She is visiting BM for the summer.  The cop and CPS worker asked to be shown in.  They looked through our house, checked if we had food, made us show that we had running water and talked to my Bios.  The reason for all of this:  BM's lies to the school.

PAS wins again

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The last few days at our house have been overwhelming. My SD12 just came back from visiting BM on Friday.  She was at BM's house for two weeks.  Before she went, she was doing well.  Her grades were better than ever and she seemed happy.  

More Weird Crap BM Says

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I really think our BM is crazy.  She has been making all these weird statements about my pregnancy.  She told my DH that she hopes our baby looks like the SDs so all his kids look like her and him *bad*,   Then yesterday, she called my DH about Christmas and decided to tell him that he needs to realize that our baby (mine and his) creates a tie between her and him forever.  WTH???  My DH asked her what that meant and she said that our baby will be siblings with her kids and that means that she will always be his family.

 

How do you do this to your own kid?

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I am so furious with BM right now.  I really wish I could tell her exactly how I feel about her.   I have spent the last few days, comforting SD12 because of her mother's lies.  I knew this was coming, but I had hoped she wouldn't pull it again.  SD12 was supposed to spend Thanksgiving break with BM.  My DH wrote to BM about a month and a half ago about the holidays, informing her that we can't do any travelling this year because I am in my third trimester.

BM says the weirdest crap

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Oh BM, why are you so obsessed with my husband?

Yesterday, SD12 handed me her phone.  She wanted to show me a pic that BM had sent her.  I was looking at the pic when I noticed that SD12 had texted her mom that the new baby (Mine and DH's baby) is a girl.  No big deal. But BM's repsonse was so weird. It said, "Oh SD12 thats so exciting. I hope she looks just like you so she looks like you and your sister. Wouldnt it be cool if all your dad's kids look like me and him?"

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