I am so furious right now.  A few days ago, a cop showed up at our door with a CPS worker in tow.  They wanted to speak to SD12, who is not here.  She is visiting BM for the summer.  The cop and CPS worker asked to be shown in.  They looked through our house, checked if we had food, made us show that we had running water and talked to my Bios.  The reason for all of this:  BM's lies to the school.

DH sent SD12 to visit her mother as ordered by our new CO.  SD12 hadn't finished some of her schoolwork because she is lazy and has been refusing to do the work.  DH told her before she left that she had a week to submit her remaining assignments or she would have to repeat her current grade.  Instead of working with SD to get the work done, BM ignored the issue until the last possible day that the assignments were due (despite my DH calling/texting every day to remind them and to pass along messages from SD's teachers).  Against his better judgement, DH gave BM the information for SD's teachers so she could help her finish her work.  BM, being the lax, ridiculous parent that she is, decides that it would be better to appeal to SD's teachers for an extension.  Instead of blaming SD's laziness for her being behind, she emails the school, outlining a long list of ridiculous abuse allegations against DH and me.  She claims that we starved SD12, that we punish her and make her clean the house so she has no time for homework and how she is terrified of my DH.  She then tells the teachers that SD will be the victim of abuse if she has to come back next school year and not have her work done.  The school, of course, calls CPS as they are obligated. 

The CPS lady and cop came out here for a few hours.  When they left, they were convinced that it was unfounded, but have to speak to SD first.  They called BM while they were here but she had a million and one excuses for why SD couldn't come to the phone.  She decided to start ranting about how abusive we are on the phone.  Luckily for us, the CPS worker saw through this and called the cops in BM's hometown.  They drove out and spoke to SD12 without her mom present.   We are not sure what was said as we haven't heard anything else.

I told my DH if SD12 agrees with her mom's ridiculous allegations and we end up being investigated further that she cannot live here anymore.  He will have to find another place for him to live with her.  I am not going to risk the custody of my bios, especially our brand new 4 month old over a bunch of lies.

The fact of the matter is that SD12 is lazy and entitled.  She wants to go back to live with BM because there are no rules or expectations at BM's house.  She told DH this, but he told her that she was not old enough to make an informed decision.  This was their way of trying to get around it.  The only thing that has probably saved this from being worse is that I don't believe SD12 would lie to the police.  She is the type of kid who will clam up but will not directly lie to you.  My DH communicated to the CPS worker how important it is that SD be interviewed without BM or SD15 nearby.  It also helps that the judge called BM paranoid in our custody papers and references her erratic behavior and history of making up false allegations.

I am just so tired of this crap.  It seems like we are always dealing with BM's stuff.  As soon as it seems to calm down, she has to start it again.  SD is so ungrateful and does not appreciate it here.  It is so hard for me not to take this personally.  I don't think I can act like nothing happened if she lied to the police.  I am so overwhelmed and angry at the whole intrusion.  UGH!