I really wanted to share this on here because I was shocked by the way that DH handled this situation. I don't think I could have handled it better.

"I can't handle this anymore." These were the words that BM said to DH in regards to SD12. She called today to talk to SD9 (or at least that was her cover for calling). At the end of the call, she asked to talk to DH. She tells him that SD12 is failing most of her classes and is a behavior problem. BM said that SD12 is out in the evening and won't come home. She is late for school every morning b/c she refuses to get up and it results in a 2+ hour fight. And apparently, she has ramped up her fits and is very violent, going so far as to bite her SF.

DH and I got up this morning to find BM sitting in our living room. That's right. She drove the 900 miles to see SD9 (she usually can't be bothered to pick up the phone and talk to her). The C/O states that she does have the right to visit with SD9 for one week out of every quarter in our home state. She has to give DH 3 weeks notice in writing that she is coming so they can work out of a schedule. She didn't give us any notice. In fact, she just knocked on the door and SD9 let her in. They were sitting on my couch talking when I woke up.

We have been having problems with SD9's grandma (BM's mom). This lady is crazy. She has been harassing us since we won custody back in August. She calls the house at random times and leaves these scary, threatening voicemails. She somehow got my stepmom's cell phone number and used one of those caller ID spoofing services to call my house. I picked up the phone, thinking it was my SM. She started screaming at me, accusing me and DH of abusing SD11. She ended that call by threatening to shoot me. At this point, we contacted our attorney and he advised us to cut contact with her.