Happy Valentines Day to all, as I sit here in the California Sunshine, having taken the day off and my dog is sitting not at my feet but ON my feet. I love it. The cat is at the window surveying her extensive neighborhood territory, also warming herself. Its quiet.

So Im taking this small space of peace and tranquility to reflect on the advice and comments given, appreciating them all.

Firstly, thank you I appreciate you.

Now for the update, as small as it is, is an incremental and fundamental shift, I hope, in the right direction, at least for me.

Ok Steptalkers, Im putting this out there because its been growing on me like moss on the proverbial rolling stone...

What are your thoughts on skids cleaning their rooms and linens?

I ask because I TYPICALLY just ignore if the door is closed. It TYPICALLY doesnt bother me.

I generally NEVER go into SD16.5 PS's room. If I dont see it, it doesnt exist for me.

So, January 2023, I decided that I would do things differently. For example, I HATE housework. I now wash dishes incessantly. Our kitchen is very small and last year we painfully redid it, but to enjoy it, it really needs to be non-cluttered. Even 2 dishes make it look cluttered, its that small.

Thats my Mothers word for cowards and cowardly bs. And I use it when faced with no better words.

Thank you to Ex Julie and AgedOut for talking me down off the ceiling. And giving the best advice, after Friday night and all that stress. I have taken the advice from them and all of you steptalkers, and will continue to take it. Because it works! She is blocked on my phone. I blocked her on instagram (id forgotten she wasnt blocked)