attempting_to_maintain_composure's Blog
UGH!
FDH was all set to talk to GUBM and let her know what we know: that if SD doesn't do schoolwork when she's at her house, then she risks expulsion from the cyber school. And if she gets expelled from the cyber school, then will have to move out here full-time in order to attend the public school in our district, where she's enrolled. I'm figuring that it would at least light a fire under GUBM's ass if she thinks she will risk losing ALL of her CS - because lord knows she doesn't give a rat's ass about SD's best interests or well-being and only cares about money.
- Read more about UGH!
- Log in or register to post comments
Input on how to deal with lying from parents of teens/stepparents of teens
So, I'm looking to get some input from step and bio parents who have had to deal with teens lying about stuff. But first, here's where FDH and I are:
SD might fail cyber school if she doesn't shape up.
SD is in trouble academically. And she's also in trouble with FDH.
- Read more about SD might fail cyber school if she doesn't shape up.
- Log in or register to post comments
Can a kid go from alienated to aware so quickly???
Things have been going better. FDH has stepped up with SD's school. But, I still think they're both approaching school in an odd manner. They're both at least marginally focused on the number of assignments SD is getting done every day rather than the work that she is doing, which means that she just goes through the motions and does the assignments rather than actually reading her books and doing her lessons. There's a reason why she's supposed to spend 5 hours a day on school, she's supposed to read the textbooks, do the online lesson, and then do the assignments.
- Read more about Can a kid go from alienated to aware so quickly???
- 10 comments
- Log in or register to post comments
Venting about FDH re: SD's schooling
Sometimes, I feel like I'm the only one who takes SD's education seriously. GUBM won't - and we all know that already. SD doesn't seem to have as much self-motivation as she did back in November. And FDH doesn't seem too invested, either. He hasn't once logged on to the online site to check on how many assignments SD is SUPPOSED to be completing so that he can compare the expectation with the reality, nor do I think he's actually logged on to check what she is submitting.
- Read more about Venting about FDH re: SD's schooling
- 4 comments
- Log in or register to post comments
Some updates on SD
So, I thought I'd pop on here and share some quick updates about SD.
- Read more about Some updates on SD
- 2 comments
- Log in or register to post comments
FDH just left to take SD back to GUBM.
All in all, the visit went pretty well. SD has matured a lot since the last time she was here - she doesn't lie to us nearly as much as she used to (and has figured out that we both can tell really easily when she is lying, so, there isn't much of a point in doing that to us), she's more adventurous with food, and she actually willingly talks to and spends time with me. Sure, there are times when she's your typical teenager - FDH will ask her to do something while he's out, and SD just messes around without actually doing anything. But, that only happened twice.
- Read more about FDH just left to take SD back to GUBM.
- Log in or register to post comments
A little more insight into SD
SD and I actually got a chance to talk last night for the first time ever, we just chatted about whatever she wanted to chat about for a good hour. I kept the convo light, and I didn't probe too much, but only where I felt was needed. The conversation centered a lot around her personal interests and how they differ from GUBM. And I got a little more insight into why SD has any sort of anxiety reaction when she gets corrected at our house.
- Read more about A little more insight into SD
- Log in or register to post comments
I don't know why it took me this long to piece this together...
Yesterday, FDH and I went to work to do our thing, and, while we were out, SD hung out at home waiting for FedEx to deliver her school supplies - we thought it might be delivered yesterday, but it's getting delivered today (that's besides the point, though). Anyway, while we were out, SD wanted to listen to a CD that one of my friends helped her buy at the concert we went to on Sunday. FDH, knowing she would want to listen to it, showed her the speaker hookup in the living room on Sunday night so she could pop it into her laptop and listen.
Update on SD's visit, things are improving? (some strong language)
Bear with me, this is going to be a bit long.
Alright. It has gotten better. I bitched FDH out in counseling for the car ride because a) it was REALLY awkward for me to be stuck in the car listening to that conversation and b) I quietly urged FDH to console SD when she was crying in the car, but, when I was upset about the whole mess of the car ride, he ignored me.