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SD's likely going to have a miserable afternoon. Hahahahaha. (smidge long, so I apologize for that ^_^)
Ah. Peace and quiet. SO and SD are out on their father-daughter day and I'm left in the blissful peace and quiet without any tension or stress oozing forth from that little troll of a child.
Oh. My. God. This child respects nobody but herself. And I wonder how long before she stops respecting herself?
I was sitting on the couch just sipping some coffee, looking over a new book I picked up today, reflecting on the awesome day I had out and about with my cousin AWAY from SD and all of her problematic behavior. When, suddenly, my dog started freaking out in the laundry room. He knocked over hampers and had our cat cornered. I couldn't figure out what his problem was, but he was NOT listening to my attempts to call him out of the laundry room. So, I go in there and pull him out.
I really think I'm the only one who thinks things through around here.
I find the situation I am in right now incredibly ironic. When SO and I first moved into his townhouse together, I had a constant battle of trying to convince him that I shouldn't have to do things the way he and GUBM did things just because of a) the comfort it provided to both SD and SO and b) because it was just what he/they were used to. Now, he is working to get SD to realize that we don't have to do things the way GUBM does just because it is what she is used to and comfortable with. I wonder why he is having such a hard time instilling that in her?
Disengagement is still going strong.
SD has actually deemed it appropriate to be in the same room as me when SO isn't around.
The other night she vacuumed the living room floor. She wouldn't come near me, though, and vacuum the floor in front of the couch I was sitting on. Whatever.
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SD is now uncomfortable to be around me. To which I say GOOD!
Yesterday, after much discussion about my disengagement as well as the entire visit SO told SD what the deal was going to be from here on out. He told her that since she has been nasty to me basically the entire time she has been here and has decided that she sees no problem with being nasty to me that I am done putting myself out there for her and I am done associating with her. He told her that, from now on, if she needs something that she can't do for herself, she has to ask him and, if it is something that he can't do and needs me to do then and only then will he ask me to do it.
Need some suggestions for disengaging from SD
Ok all. I know a lot of posts have gone up about disengaging on here, but, many seem to deal with disengagement due to a difference in standards/opinions between the adults in the house.
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SD has proven herself to be nothing but a liar and disrespectful
Everything came to a head today and I really don't know what's going to happen from here on out, because, SD has been disrespectful and has done nothing by lie all day long.
SD's non-interaction with me - will it be improving more??
SD has a few chores that she has picked out to do around the house when she stays with us, one of them being loading and unloading our dishwasher every day. Last night, while SO was taking a shower, SD was taking care of the dishwasher and was slowly - a sloth could have done it quicker than she - loading the dishwasher with dirty dishes. She was purposefully taking her time because there were dirty things she was not sure about putting in the dishwasher and there were clean things she wasn't sure of where they belonged.
Update to the month-long SD visit - things about SD that kind of bug the piss out of me
I haven't been on here much lately. Well, that's not entirely true. I come on and read blog entries during breaks at work or whenever I'm just bored at home, but, I've been pretty busy this week between work and medical appointments/tests. Today's my first real day off.
Counseling tonight - Thank the heavens and all that is holy!
Things have improved somewhat since Saturday, but, there's a lot that needs work and there's a lot we need to discuss. I just hope our therapist can actually handle it beyond just asking us to think and reflect on it. I don't expect her to give us advice, more just, to have some insight to spark in us beyond "Hmm, so, how does that make you feel?"