I had a talk with my dh bc he felt that the weekends sd6 is here that i turn the house into a military so we fight about my disengagement his lack of full parenting her complete lack of discipline and reapect and the entire situation imcluding her stupid bm who is VERY upset our 4year relationship and marriage has not come to an end. Sd6's mom is hell rnough to deal with but sd6ruins my mood now a days.
Here are some of the things im dreading when he gets her.
Anytime dh and i sit next to each other or get close she comes to sit in his lap and take hids attention or just blatantly pushes us apart.
If he comes in a room with me she barges in as if we cant be alone and even after multiple times telling her she will NOT knock and if she is told she cannot come in and to return to her room/tv/toys she will either stand at the door and knock every 45 seconds saying daddy daddy daddy i gotta ask you something or why cant i come in or come out of there OR she stands at the door and cries.
She sleeps on her own at her moms and has slept on her own at our home since age 2 or 3 but since my and dh bd8mos has come she begs and cries and whines for dh to sleep with her so when he comes to bed with me she stands at our door telling him to "come to bed" or asks over and over when he is coming to bed.
She ignores us both when we are telling her something she doesnt want to hear or do but she is especially nasty with me and i have to just stay away from her bc that is ridiculous. And she will not ask me most things even if it involves ME! She ignores me and asks her dad what im cooking. She ignores me and asks her dad can she have/see/play with MY things.
She says things like dont sit there u go sit by your baby i want my daddy to sit by me, and she makes up songs with words like i will be so happy when my daddy comes in here so nobody can fuss at me.....it pisses me off when dh doesnt say anything to that.
She says her mom told her im not her mom so she dont have to listen to me, not to eat/drink behind me or while im there as she says, that me and dh are not raising her so thats why it only matters what bm says bc we dont raise her.
She waits til im not looking or around to do things to/with my baby and i cant tell you how many times ive left dh and the two kids alone in a room and ran right back for my baby bc all i could hear is him fussing at sd saying "be gentle she just a baby, quit doing that, dont touch her in the face, dont put ur finger in her mouth stop petting her she not an animal, she has a soft spot not so hard be gentle!" so i am terrified of what actually goes through her head!
I just want to disappear eeow and even though dh and i had a good talk i still dread her coming not bc i hate or dislike her....i just dont like the way things are when she is here.
Theres my vent. If anybody found any solutions to anything i said i definitely appreciate the input.