My fiance and I are planning our wedding, which will be very simple and very small. While his kids are horrible, and I want nothing to do with them, I left it up to him to decide if we invite them.
He does NOT want to. Their aunt emailed him and said not to invite them, which tells me they either said something or she is worried-this woman is the only rational one in BM's family. These adult brats are incredibly nasty people. They have virtually no contact with my fiance, unless they want money. He stopped being their wallet awhile ago, so we never hear from them His one son texts once in a while, but just stupid stuff. He was acting sort of nice (for him) a couple of months ago, but when my fiance did not hand over money, he stopped calling.

So...do I suggest my fiance re-think this, or do I leave it like this, and they just do not attend. My family thinks my fiance will feel guilty if they don't come, but I don't know. They are really not in his life.

Also, if they are invited, BM will know the details, and she is nuts (what else is new).

Thanks for any advice!