BAD news and GOOD news
The BAD news is that SS17 piece of crap is going to be here again this weekend. That reminds me I need more wine...GOOD news is he is arriving LATE Saturday night after he's done work and will be leaving Monday morning to go back to work. He'll only be in my atmosphere for SUNDAY...I can ignore anyone for a day!
He and my DH went out to dinner last night and I didn't ask a damned thing about it. Didn't ask about SS17's grades, his owing us money, his pot smoking or even what my DH had for dinner. I really didn't care. And I knew that if I opened my mouth and he shared any info at all, that I would just get pissed and we'd end up fighting. So after a little while of experiencing my apathy, DH starting telling me all about SS17 and their conversation and I just nodded and said mmm hmm while I read my book. I couldn't even tell you what he said.
I DON'T CARE.
Now when he bitches about his kids I ask,"Are you venting or asking for help"? Either way I keep my trap shut.
Detaching is HEAVEN
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Oh yes. I remember this
Oh yes. I remember this "phase" well. If you offer your opinion straight off the bat, you are an "EEEVVVIIIIILLLL SM" and "hate his kids." (TM)
I too became apathetic. And would stay out of it as he "vented"
Then later, he would go into full court press turd polishing when he saw his progeny's crater fail grades. I ignored it and rolled my eyes. Then he would get ANGRY at me because he knew my bios would never earn such atrocious grades DESPITE the fact that they were raised by me in a REAL single parent home without aid of child support.
As another poster aptly put, she realized that BOTH parents are horrible non-parents, never mind "co-parenting." IMHO both the BM and Mr. Guilty Daddy should have been sterilized from birth. The BM was raised in a spoiled, only-child princess-miracle-baby atmosphere and Mr. Guilty Daddy was the result of tired, elderly, apathetic alcoholic parents who free-ranged him (aka spoiled).
"Full press turd
"Full press turd polishing"...LMAO. I'm only 3 years into this and I see clearly there are phases of step...much like the phases of grieving. How ironic!