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DH nearly died - literally. I'm a mess

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Submitted by weekendwidow on Mon, 09/22/2014 - 12:51pm

I had a horrifying experience this weekend where DH nearly died. Praise God he is still here and OK. I feel more strongly than ever that life is too short to put up with his asshole kids and I just won't have any of there shit in my life. I almost lost the man of my dreams in a blink of an eye and I'll be damned if I squander the second chance we've been given on self absorbed, selfish, entitled losers.

I haven't told DH about the ludicrous text I received from SD22 thanking me for her bday gift and her saying that she misses me. She doesn't miss me anymore than I miss her. She's a manipulative liar and her tricks ever worked with me. I deleted her text and just ignored it.

I haven't told DH about it and I feel, in light of our recent near tragedy, I should be honest with him about how this insincere text made me feel and why I didn't answer it. I know it's just a stupid text - but this can snowball into something huge since SD22 has a drama "issue" and just prowls around to find a reason to hate me.

I think I would've just let it go before this weekend's terrifying events, but now I just don't want to keep any secrets from my DH....

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Submitted by GhostWhoCooksDinner on Mon, 09/22/2014 - 1:05pm

Holy crap! What happened? (If you can share.) Glad he's OK.

I can understand why you'd want to be honest. Life really is too short. I need to remember this as well and not let my own issues with SS15 cause issues.

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Submitted by weekendwidow on Mon, 09/22/2014 - 1:15pm

I thought about that, too! Why burden him, right? That's where I'm stuck. I want to be honest with my feelings about why I don't trust his kids...her text is a perfect reason since it's a blatant lie even he can see through. Then again, I also want to protect him from any more BS his kids spew in either of our directions. I want to protect him from everything!

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Submitted by weekendwidow on Mon, 09/22/2014 - 1:13pm

Respectfully, I'm not going to share what happened specifically since it could make things more complicated than they need to be. I'm not trying to be mysterious, but anonymity is important in this circumstance. I hope you all understand, I'm pretty sure you do. Smile Thanks

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Submitted by weekendwidow on Mon, 09/22/2014 - 1:30pm

Thanks everyone. Yes he is OK. And I can't stop crying over how scared I was and how fucking lucky we are! NOTHING else seems important...nothing.

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Submitted by Tuff Noogies on Mon, 09/22/2014 - 1:57pm

((hugs)) that is such a scary feeling, and how the relief just floods out your tear ducts. so glad he's ok.

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Submitted by weekendwidow on Mon, 09/22/2014 - 1:46pm

Oh man! I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. I think I know your terror. It's awful. I'm sorry your SD had to needlessly add to the drama. What a brat. My skids haven't been told. They haven't replied to any correspondence from their dad since May - except for SD who wanted a birthday gift last week. There's no need to involve them in our lives since they've told us they aren't interested in us anyway.

It really got me thinking - if something tragic did actually happen, what the hell would I say to the skids. They wouldn't ever pick up the phone if I called and putting it in a text is so harsh...I really don't know what I'd do. I'd sure as hell not want them to come over and add to the stress.

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Submitted by Teas83 on Mon, 09/22/2014 - 2:04pm

This kind of thing really puts all the drama of these step situations into perspective. This nonsense seems so unimportant when you're facing something life threatening.

My mom recently found a lump in her mouth. She knows a woman who had the same kind of thing a few months ago and it turned out to be cancer. Of course I was worried about my mom after hearing this, and I realized that I could care less about BM, GBM and all this garbage these people have brought into my life. BM lives in the same town as my mom, but if her diagnosis had been bad I was prepared to move there and take care of her, even if it meant seeing a lot more of BM. Luckily, it looks like my mom's diagnosis will not be anything serious, but it really made me see what's important in life.

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Submitted by weekendwidow on Mon, 09/22/2014 - 2:38pm

I'm glad to know your mom is OK. It's so scary and YES it puts it all into perspective, doesn't it. Maybe this is God's way of getting our attention and telling us all to get the hell over it. I really don't care about what he skids or BM think of me or my family. They are all insignificant specks of dust that can be flicked away so easily. I have chosen to flick them away. When/If DH questions anything I'll remind him of what we nearly lost on September 20, 2014. THAT is what matters.

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Submitted by HungryEyes on Mon, 09/22/2014 - 2:46pm

I can't imagine life without my husband. I would be useless. I can't even imagine what that looks like. Life is too short.