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Help!! I am a very new SM (just married 3 months ago) and I don't know how to deal with this situation.
I just discovered that my 13yo SD has a navel ring that her biomom took her to get months ago when she was only 12. Is it just me or is that completely innappropriate?? And, my husband doesn't know anything about it, should I tell him or just let it go?
Biomom also bought SD a Playboy Bunny "Sexy Babe" t-shirt that my husband banned and told her to return. She still has the shirt, just doesn't wear it when she is with us.
Just discovered from my brother that he is struggling w/relationship w/his girlfriend and children. She is divorced w/2 children. It seems to me that he needs to get educated on stepfamily situations. Offered him to read some of the books I bought to help him. Maybe even refer him to this step talk website.
Since last month, I've been actively trying to develop a better relationship w/my stepson. I'm talking to him more and take him out w/me when I can. I never use to do that since my relationship w/his biomom. I now realize that stepson is an important part of my husband's life and I wanted to show my husband and stepson that I'm a good person after all and that I don't despise my stepson. I guess my frustration w/biomom rubbed off my stepson before and both my husband and stepson thought that I hated my stepson. It is not true of course.
Follow up of what happened yesterday..
I was talking to my mother-in-law thinking that I could share how I felt safely with her. Then I found out that my husband had talked to his dad about me not wanting to take my SD for a walk. And then grandpa went to ask his wife (my mother-in-law)why I didn't want to take a walk with my SD. That is wonderful... go tell THE person who loves E the most in the world. I felt totally betrayed. I guess I will try to keep my feelings to myself next time.
Well, I have seen some interesting reads lately on the blogs, and as I have been driving thru town, also seen some interesting stuff. Never question what you see in the South. You don't want to know, because if you ask, you'll get an answer that you'll never understand. I got a real taste of things yesterday at "Mayor's Court". 
And the smiley face wasn't because it made me smile, it was a joke! Good grief! I feel like Lucy the Psychiatrist, from Peanuts, on Charlie Brown.
Well ladies - I didn't call and I'm sure BF's daughter will hold it against me like everything else. Oh well. She did call her father and thank her for the flowers, but that was in the middle of her surprise party that her mom threw for her (flowers were delivered in the morning the party started at 6:00 p.m. and she called and left a message for her father at 7:10 p.m. during the party). I was glad for my boyfriend that she called and thanked him, although she waited for a long time before calling and I wonder who at the party convinced her to call...
It seems to me this is the only place I can feel sorry about myself. I have been here for 4 and half years now, but I still don't have any close friends. At first I thought I only need a friend that's close to my age.... Now I think I need someone not only that is close to my age but also in the same marital situation.
Well, small towns can really be a killer. We just got back from "Mayor's Court" and were officially violated with the cost of a speeding ticket. My husband had a ticket for 50 in a 35 mph zone, first offense ever, ticket cost was $110 plus surcharges, total was $152, plus we had to get his DL copy ahead of time which was $30, which cost us $182.00. The court session was the most ineffecient, out of date, backwards thing you'd ever seen. My husband was the only one that left without getting probation, and we had to go to an ATM to get cash to get a money order to pay his ticket and fees.
The biomom planned a surprise birthday party for my BF's daughter (Sweet 16). I think that the biomom should have invited my boyfriend even if her daughter and my boyfriend are at odds. If it was a surprise, she wouldn't have a say and that way my boyfriend could have made a decision whether to go or not - and I do believe he would have went regardless of how bad the relationship is right now - he is just trying to be a parent and make his daughter understand that she can no longer conduct herself the way that she does and needs to become responsible for her actions...
My boyfriend finally took a stand and told his daughter that she was no longer welcome in our home until she changed her attitude and learned to stop disrespecting and being defiant and had her mother come and get all of her belongings, right down to the bed in her room. I felt it was a little extreme, but something had to change. Mommy dearest gladly came to the rescue and continued to make excuses for her...
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