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Ss hospitalized

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I think we have reached our lowest point. Ss stopped eating completely since last Sunday when we met him. And since Wednesday has stopped drinking water. So they had to hospitalize him. My Dh left last night to be there. They are hydrating him themselves and using a nasogastric feeding tube to start getting calories into him. At one point he tried pulling the tube out so he is restrained now.

One of the most upsetting weekends of my life

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I have decided I will not be going to visit Ss with my Dh for a long time. It was extremely upsetting. I cried all the way back home. People looked at me like I was insane. I haven't been able to sleep since Sunday.

We decided against taking Ss out for lunch because of people here saying Ss might possibly run away. So we bought McDonald's to eat with Ss. Its the only we notice he will eat somewhat enthusiastically.

Second update from facility and call from Ss

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We are now getting updates about Ss through email from the school because hearing it over the phone was upsetting. The email said that Ss is eating only a few bites at every meal and refusing to finish it. Luckily he has stopped throwing up. He is still crying and refusing to get out of his bed all day. And he had a bad nightmare last night that needed two nurses to help calm him down. He has not spoken a word to anyone there.

It went really terrible

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I heard back from my Dh last night and this morning. He had dropped Ss off in the afternoon. As expected, it did NOT go well. From what I gathered, he was clutching on to my Dh, refusing to let go. My Dh said Ss ripped a chunk of his hair out when they had to drag him away. He was screaming and crying the whole time.

They are gone

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My Dh and Ss left three hours ago. Last night my Dh told me he thinks he is making the biggest mistake of his life sending Ss there. I comforted him saying that if we ever need to, we can always bring Ss back home. But at least we can't say we didn't try.

They left this morning and Ss looked excited, which just made everything infinitely worse. He even hugged me back when I hugged him goodbye. My kids went to my mother's yesterday just in case a scene occurred.

One more day and my Dh is starting to change his mind

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Last night Ss had a bad nightmare. He used to have them a lot more frequently before but over the last year or so, they became more sporadic. But last night was bad. He was screaming and crying. He even wet the bed. It took my Dh 15 mins down to calm him down. He was having a night terror, his eyes were open but he did not know where he was. He finally calmed down and came to his senses. He wouldn't tell us what the dream was about. We can only imagine it must have been terrible. He continued sleeping with my Dh hugging him all night.

5 more days

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All plans have been made for my Dh and Ss to leave this Friday. You can feel the tension in the house. On Saturday I heard my Dh asking Ss if he was excited for the trip. What the heck?! I asked my Dh about it and he said it slipped out. Why on Earth would he do that.

It looks like its happening

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Everything has been confirmed for Ss to join the facility next Sunday. My Dh told he would be taking Ss on a roadtrip, nothing else. Ss was very suspicious as expected. But my Dh lied through his teeth saying it was jut a trip. I can only imagine how this is going to blow up in our faces.

Ss has been improving. He has gained weight again. We don't even feel like celebrating it because we know he is going to lose it all plus some once he goes to the facility.

Getting our finances in order

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We have been getting our money and wills in order, especially since Ss is being sent to the facility. What is causing some friction between is how he is treating Ss. I do not control what my Dh spends his money on. He makes a lot more than me but I am very comfortable with my earnings. As long as he makes the appropriate contributions in savings and retirement, I don't really care. He carries three life insurance policies. One for me and two for Ss. I carry my own policy for my kids.

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