DS3 has been potty rained since he was 2 and hasn't had an accident since shortly after. SS9 however, still needs good nights.
DS has never liked to be dirty, so it was a breeze when it came to potty training. He was excited about picking out big boy underwear and his own potty which he used maybe the first couple weeks until he asked to use the big boy potty and I just bought a step stool. I was very diligent when t came to asking if he needed to go and limited liquids at bedtime and he got the hang of it pretty quickly.

I woke up this morning to find DH thumbing through his decree. Apparently because we've asked BM to meet us halfway a few times due to travel complications when returning ss after visitation (5 hours away)she thinks that DH must now start paying half of ss Adderol prescription. (She hasn't paid her part of travel in 8 years and claims it goes to unpaid health bills) The decree is a little hard to understand as far as health care goes so I'm not sure if this is a legitimate request or not after reading it.

Everything was nice and calm for a couple of months.
I have to say, while SS8 was here for the Holidays I was pleasantly surprised as he was MUCH better behaved than he has been in the past. He wasn't perfect, we still had to ask/tell him things a million times, and his manners were still not great, but there were no outbursts, or stealing, or lying or general ugliness this time around. I even told him and DH the same while we took him home after his visit, and I'm not one to hand out random compliments.