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Divorce Decree. A.k.a DH got screwed

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Submitted by loveandfitness on Fri, 10/03/2014 - 9:52am

I woke up this morning to find DH thumbing through his decree. Apparently because we've asked BM to meet us halfway a few times due to travel complications when returning ss after visitation (5 hours away)she thinks that DH must now start paying half of ss Adderol prescription. (She hasn't paid her part of travel in 8 years and claims it goes to unpaid health bills) The decree is a little hard to understand as far as health care goes so I'm not sure if this is a legitimate request or not after reading it. I suggested he get someone else to read it and offhandedly said it needs to be changed anyway, to which he got upset with me and replied with wounded puppy eyes saying "Well you can either deal with it or divorce me because I'll never be able to afford to fight with her." He then left for work. It left me feeling selfish, heavy hearted and very angry with BM and the world.
I know he's dealing with more than I am, but it still effects and weighs on me.
Would it be horrible of me to ask him to not tell me these things and deal with it himself?? Not that I'm sure I could do that because then he'd probably give in to everything... However, if I didn't know about it then it wouldn't effect me so much.

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Submitted by loveandfitness on Wed, 10/08/2014 - 11:08am

Oh he definitely allowed for her to walk all over him. Ss was only 6 wks old so he gave her everything (quite litetally) in order to get regular visitation as suggested by his stupid lawyer. He didn't fight for anything at all, not even his familys heirloom china which she stole along with everything else in the house when she left. He tells me he got a good deal and that he shouldnt have been allowed the visitation he has considering they live so far away.... maybe he did, i don't know.... but how i wish i knew before the things i know now.

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Submitted by loveandfitness on Fri, 10/03/2014 - 10:52am

DH is required to provide full CS, full health insurance with prescription benefits among a ton of other things. As far as health insurance goes, what I THINK it says is that he pays 50% should they not accept her insurance, but there are a ton of exceptions, that section is four pages long, and it seems to waffle.

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Fri, 10/03/2014 - 11:51am

Not a good response whatsoever. Sounds like something CHEF would say. In fact he said it again just the other day after the fight about re-working the mediation agreement to something slightly less lopsided than the leaning tower of Pisa.

"You KNEW what you were getting into. . ."

I responded: "I did not know you were giving away the farm, the barn, the shop, the candy store, lock stock and barrel. Most NORMAL men fight for their rights when getting divorced--you are the ONLY man I've been with who just rolled over."

Once again, they want us to just suck it up, paint a smile on our faces, despite the fact that when they get gypped, WE GET GYPPED and whistle a happy tune out our a-holes!

It always amazes me how they will roll over for the BM but have NO problem going toe to toe with us.

I would have said "divorce it is!"