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BM called again - what if I just leave the country and leave SS16 here?

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Submitted by LizGrace65 on Mon, 09/20/2010 - 8:45pm

So SS ran out in April, and BM took him. BM called in less than a month begging SO to pick up SS because she couldn't handle him. SO agreed, and BM said she had been wrong to let SS run to her to escape the rules with SO. SS stayed about 7 weeks, then ran to BM again - having prearranged it with her. SO has now detached from both of them, telling BM that since she and SS proactively went behind SO's back to plan this really bad decision (BM can't provide him with the structure he needs, not even his basic needs are guaranteed to be met with her), that BM and SS are on their own.

A recent social networking status from SS16 - apologies for the language - I "bleeped" the worst of it...

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Submitted by LizGrace65 on Fri, 09/10/2010 - 7:27pm

N!--@s tlk sh!t everyday lol dey jus f___n jealous becuz ppl start to f___g knoe u nd u start to get rep. nd dey act big guess wat n!--@s

Seriously what is wrong with this idiot?

BM leaves desperate voicemail, SS16 picked up by police - sorry LONG!

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Submitted by LizGrace65 on Thu, 09/09/2010 - 4:59pm

Back story: SS was full time with us from age 10 til almost 16. BM was not allowed overnight visitation because she's destitute, paid nothing and saw him irregularly, although she lives in the same town. SS had only one basic rule: do well in school. For that, he pretty much had everything with us. But SS couldn't be bothered to do a decent job. This spring SO finally completely cracked down when SS was averaging three Fs and two Ds. SS sincerely believes nobody has the right to curtail his freedom or to tell him anything, and ran to BM. BM took him in.

Found out SO refused to have another child with BM - but he's going through IVF with me

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Submitted by LizGrace65 on Fri, 08/27/2010 - 8:13am

:jawdrop: SO never mentioned that BM wanted more children and SO refused. They had SS16 by "accident" and got married a year or so later. They were together until shortly before SO and I got together (I was not SO's first relationship post marriage, but close to it). SS was 10 when SO and I got together.

I've never had kids, and had tried. After a while of that, you just figure you can't. I left exH at 31 and didn't find myself in a stable long term committment again I got together with SO at the age of 36. And we were focused on SS, who was custodial with us.

O/T - Surgery went well

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Submitted by LizGrace65 on Wed, 08/04/2010 - 3:49pm

Just a note to say I had my surgery Monday and am recovering ok. I had a tubal ligation in preparation for in vitro. Still not back on the laptop - three small abdominal incisions are healing well but sitting at the PC is not real fun right now. I'm logged on through the phone haha. I miss the site - hope everyone is doing ok.

L

BM wants to pick up SS15's bed - and SO said no...

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Submitted by LizGrace65 on Sat, 07/31/2010 - 6:17pm

SO said no, SS can't come pick up his bed and the rest of the stuff he left here this weekend or next weekend.

SO didn't tell BM why - but it's because I'm having surgery at 7:30 Monday morning.

Awesome of SO to realize and enforce that I would want to relax as much as possible this weekend (beforehand), and next weekend I'll still be recovering. And awesome of him to protect my privacy about it.

BM probably thinks SO is just trying to be a dick, since he didn't tell her why.

"I saw SS15 on the street and he looked like hell..."

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Submitted by LizGrace65 on Thu, 07/29/2010 - 12:40pm

That's what SO's good friend at work told him earlier this week. This is the same friend that SO called for help the first time that SS15 pulled the "running between houses" stunt. SS and this friend have been close - the friend is very young at heart and the two of them would always joke around together. At that time (when SS walked out the first time), this friend, who also knows BM, tried to talk SS out of making the mistake of going with her. SS didn't listen. The friend was happy when SS came back to SO - and of course appalled when SS ran out again.

Never Try to Teach a Pig To Sing....

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Submitted by LizGrace65 on Tue, 07/20/2010 - 9:39pm

Robert Heinlein said "Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time and annoys the pig."

This can be interpreted to mean that there's no point in trying to carry on an interaction that's impossible - there's nothing to be gained on either side.

Not that I care if I annoy the pig - but I don't care to waste my time trying to discourse rationally with anyone who is in fact, at the end of the day, not constrained by the bounds of rationality, be it my SS, or another poster on this forum.

Anybody with me? (grin)

L

OT - These kids can really dance

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Submitted by LizGrace65 on Tue, 07/20/2010 - 9:29pm

I love this ad. First of all, it has a great message. But more than that, these kids are great dancers. That might not hit you right off, because what they're doing is so *not* mainstream dancing of any style. And since they do it so well, you slip into thinking that they're really controlled by the strings. When you really think about the fact that no, they're not flopping around at the end of those strings, they're actually totally in control and creating a fantastic *illusion* of that, you have to be impressed....

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