In my opinion, growing up is a process. There is not a magic day on which a human being (*bing*!!!) goes from being a child to being an adult. It is nonsensical to conclude that someone's behavior must be excusable or could not possibly be malicious because they are a "child" - because there is no clear definition of a child. Because, again, there is no (***BING***!!!) magic day when a person goes from "child" instantly to "adult."

BM finally took SS over to the house of his friend who died, to pay his respects to the parents. BM walked in, went over to the grieving mother, and the first words out of her mouth were, "What are you doing to do with the body? Are you going to bury it here or send it back to (home country)?"

:jawdrop:

What an insensitive c***. Sorry for the use of that word, but that's disgusting. She didn't even say "I'm sorry" or anything first.

SO was not there at the time - BM's cousin was there and told SO what happened.

That pretty much sums me up right now. New to the site, and so angry it's actually difficult to communicate. Relieved at the same time though, because SS 15 just left again. He lived with me and DH for almost 6 years and his mother didn't even get overnight visitation because she is incapable of holding steady employment and maintaining a permanent address suitable for him to stay at. She didn't pay any CS - DH didn't ask for it. I don't have any bio kids, and I make good money, so SS had it really good with us. Everything revolved around him.

It's been so nice in the house the past several days. No worrying about checking to see whether you're doing what you should be doing. That's not my problem anymore.

Of course, there's still the occasional call from your mother. The two of you don't really seem to understand that we don't care anymore what you think and we're not interested in interacting with you. You've made your choices and we've told you goodbye and good luck. Why the continued efforts to engage?