yes, I know detachment, detachment, detachment.

And there are some ways I've detached such as-I dont care if he fails in school, I dont care if he gets in trouble at school, I'm sure he's destined to be a loser and I dont care. However, I find it difficult to detach in other ways since ss is a fulltime, 24/7 resident here. I run the household so it's really difficult to detach from those sorts of issues.

Things have not been good here in my household for several months. Dh and I have split twice and gotten back together. Ss moved in two months ago and I has been traumatic fir everyone. However for the last month or so things have been " ok ". Ss has been ok- although mouthy lately. And dh has been really really distracted. I finally found out why yesterday. When we split about a month ago he moved out and stayed a week or so with my inlaws and sisinlaw both. He took a bunch of money out of the bank in cash.

So a month ago she calls up asking to have ss14 this weekend-was going to through him an allnite birthday party at some video game place and wanted him to bring two of his new friends. Now, remember she hasnt seen her kid in 3 months-has only seen him maybe 3 times in the past year or so, doesnt call him with any sort of regularity, and pays no cs. Last year, she told dh she wanted to terminate her rights to him.

So bm called a month ago requesting to take ss14, along with 2 of his friends, for the entire weekend so she can rent someplace and throw ss a big bday bash. First of all this woman has not even seen her kid in 3 months. She pays no child support. This was only the second time in 3 months that she's even talked to her kid. The first time was initiated by dh. She has seen him 3 times in the past year or so. She only lives an hour away.