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Dh sees a VA counselor once a month. Its a requirement for his care otherwise he probably wouldnt go-but it does sound like he makes use of the time which I am glad for. He went the other day and was talking about how ss moved out 3 weeks ago. She was completely supportive and told him that in a few years ss would be moving on and out anyway and theres no reason to take a chance of ruining your marriage and the family that you do have in order to try and please him. Dh told me he completely agrees with what she said. I never thought I would hear such a thing from dh 10 years ago.

I'm seriously in a dark place...

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I am so effing tired or not only taking everyone's shit but bending over and saying Please and thank you while it's happening. Have had too much wine and must admit I am creating havoc. So far I've messagedmy bl's girlfriend, my sil, and m ss's half sister on Facebook Just to speak some truths. I've verbally ripped my dh a new one and I just don't care. People want to eff with me? Fine, but I'm not keeping my mouth shut and keeping people's effed uP sects anymore!

Would you be pissy?

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Ok-after 4 months of ss living here and trying to take over my home he finally moved out last Thursday. Great, I thought-i can get my house in order and then relax. Well at some point over the weekend my dh came to me and said he wanted to have his buddy come down on Tuesday and help him clean out and wire the shed. Um, ok. i work so it's not a big deal. Then the next thing he tells me is that he will be camping out in a tent in our back yard Tuesday night because he needs him to help him two day.s Well, ok-I am not fond of overnight guests-but ok i can deal with that.

Trying to stay disengaged, BUT it's soooo hard...

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SS14 moved out exactly 6 days ago. So during those 6 days I know he has gone to a local amusement park 3 times. I know this as my dd14 works there and has seen him. Now, we all have season passes; however, at the beginning of the year you have to take the receipt in, show it to customer relations, and they will give you your pass. So ss14 never went until he moved out 6 days ago. Never expressed interest or desire so never went and had his pass made. The paper is still at our house so I know he didnt take it with him when he left. So how the heck is he getting in?

Bought paint last night for my dd10's "new" room...

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Yeah! This is of course ss14's newly vacated room. I was worried that he might want to "keep it open" in case ss needed to come back, but no he was prepared to move forward with giving dd10 that room. My dd10 has never had a room of her own (has always shared with her big sister) so this is a pretty exciting thing for her and for my oldest dd14 as well who has her own room again for the first time in 10 years.

Feeling like I just hate everyone...

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ugh! Dh had a fairly good week last week-he had restarted his meds and I saw some improvements quite quickly. However, its back to the damn shed this weekend. He literally spent all of saturday, all of sat night, all of sunday, and all of sunday night in there. Yep, he hasnt gotten any real sleep since fri nite. He takes his meds at night and he's not taken those in two nights either. My guess is he is home right now crashed. So frustrated. He asked me several times to come down there with him. Like what am I going to do in the cramped shed with your 5 million computer parts?

Ugh I just can't stand the skid...

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Not that I'm alone with that. His dad spent the day with him and said he'd been bothering him all day. He's been a real arse for days now. I told him to go out and help his dad this morning-his response " no I'm not doing that". I asked him to please stop eating things that he knows are for supper. His response, " no, ifim hungry I'm going to eat whatever's here.". I tell him not to stay up all nite watching tv he stays up til 5am. We have like 10 kittens and he designated one his and calls it a different name after we already named it.

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