Seriously. I need some advice here. My ss14 is sooo immature. It drives me nuts on a personal level and it creates all sorts of issues for him as well. And it creates issues for my dh as well. But how to go about making him act his age? This morning he was singing as he was getting ready, kicking things across the floor, dancing around, talking to himself in a baby voice. I'm like WTF? Do 14 year old boys really act this way? I have a 14 year old girl that would never do any of this stuff. My ds is 12-he would neer do that stuff nor would my 10 year old dd.

OK-so some know my story some dont-but in a nutshell-my dh has always had sole custody of ss since he was an infant. However in 2007 he went to live with bm when my dh was deployed. Dh was injured in Iraq and spent several years on a wounded warrior unit and was finally released and medically discharged in May 2011. So ss ended up living with bm for 4 years or so. The initial plan was to take him back-but his behavior was soooo bad that it just didnt seem feasible immediately. A few months after dh got home,bm kicked ss out of her home for growing weed in her yard.

I had been holding off on the attorney as he is saying he does not wish to divorce and truthfully as pathetic as it sounds-IF there is a way to fix it I would like to-however, after listening to your all's advice I think I will go talk to one, hoping to at least get some more information. I was thinking that I would get nothing other than my disability payment for our dd-but perhaps I am entitled to more? I dont know. He has a va payment, social security payment, and a pension payment. He makes twice as much as I do and has free health care.

Soo I pick up dd14 at youth grp tonite. She tells me she knows something about ss and should she tell me? Well, yeah. She said he asked a kid at school to get him some " chew" and then told the kid that he smoked weed while at his last school ( while with mil). DD has known this boy since she was 5. This boy went directly to my dd and told her- ss was looking at them across the classroom as he was telling dd. Just in case my dd decided not to tell, ss came home and immediately told my ds12 what he said.