You are here

Hastings's Blog

It’s not the same thing!

Hastings's picture

Submitted by Hastings on Tue, 03/30/2021 - 10:13am

One of the things that bothers me about SS10 (really more DH) is food and drink. SS would take good or drink up to his room and then leave the container or cup or whatever there instead of returning it when through. I try to keep my mouth shut on most things but this was one I felt the need to speak up. I don't mind stuff in his room IF he's responsible. He's demonstrated he's not. If he spills something, he leaves it. He had never brought something back to the kitchen unless told to. I have a fear of that leading to bugs or to the dogs getting something that could make them sick.

Coddling and life lessons

Hastings's picture

Submitted by Hastings on Fri, 03/19/2021 - 10:58pm

I wrote earlier this week about SS10 not getting on to participate in virtual class. He's doing the work. But instead of class he was logging on for role call and then goofing off. Apparently DH realized this was a problem last week and checked on him a few times, catching him on his iPad and (a couple of times) *ahem* enjoying himself. A stern talking-to followed.

Virtual school drama

Hastings's picture

Submitted by Hastings on Wed, 03/17/2021 - 10:51am

So, SS10 is with BM this week. DH is out of town for work and I'm staying with family (we're in the process of moving). Long story. Anyway, SS has done virtual school this year.

Today, DH and BM are told SS has not logged in to participate in class all week so they've locked him out of his account. He's been doing his assignments (mostly A and one B )but hasn't been there for class.

Lovely.

It’s a kid week

Hastings's picture

Submitted by Hastings on Thu, 02/11/2021 - 11:08am

We're mid-way through a kid week and, as usual, I find myself getting annoyed with SS10 and DH.

1) DH talked to SS about the swishing beverages around in his mouth thing and SS agreed to stop. He still does it. It's a habit and I get that he'll have slip-ups, but while it was better for a couple of days, it's getting worse again and DH ignores it. He's also added smacking when eating.

I take it back!

Hastings's picture

Submitted by Hastings on Wed, 01/27/2021 - 1:13pm

After the yay moment this morning -- ugh!

Last night DH made one of his chili recipes. When we went over the week's meal plan, we decided on it and having it for two dinners. Great.

Today, SS comes down for lunch. I was in the next room so didn't hear their discussion but DH asked if it was ok to microwave one of our dish sets. I said no. He decided to use the others. SS had tomato soup yesterday and there was some left over so I figured that was what he was having.

Nope.

Every now and then, a miracle

Hastings's picture

Submitted by Hastings on Wed, 01/27/2021 - 9:51am

Not from SS10 but from DH.

SS is doing remote learning right now and DH and I are (mostly) remote as well so a lot of together time. SS is also in a gifted and talented program that pulls the kids out of class Wednesday mornings. Lots of creative, imaginative projects. He's actually not a terribly imaginative kid but he is smart. Anyway, for a couple of months they've been working on creating and building their own model food trucks. Since SS goes back and forth every other week, he has to take his stuff between houses.

How do you deal with little annoyances?

Hastings's picture

Submitted by Hastings on Mon, 01/25/2021 - 1:18pm

I'm sure many others here struggle with this and would love to hear advice or how you handle it.

So many things about SS10 and just things that happen when he's here annoy me. I struggle with it and do my best not to let it show. I know that wouldn't do my relationship with SS or DH any good.

1) SS has developed a habit of swishing any beverage around in his mouth before swallowing. Like it's mouthwash. He'll even do it with ice cream (apparently holds it in his mouth until it melts). The sound absolutely grates on my nerves, like nails on a chalkboard.

School and avoidance

Hastings's picture

Submitted by Hastings on Mon, 01/11/2021 - 1:43pm

So, SS10's school district has had theee options this year: fully in-school, fully remote, combo of the two. SS has been doing the remote option.

I can't say I think very highly of it because it seems like they actually work about 20% of the day and are otherwise on a break. Also, DH figured out that SS was rushing through assignments and playing video games, resulting in low grades on assignments. (Solved by saying if he doesn't have As or high Bs, no screen time during breaks.) Anyway, DH has mentioned numerous times he's not really impressed with it all.

Sometimes I feel like a bad person (first blog)

Hastings's picture

Submitted by Hastings on Wed, 01/06/2021 - 11:00am

I've been around the site and on the boards for a while but I thought I'd give blogging a try.

A little background: DH and I have been married for four years and he has a 10-year-old son from his first marriage. I have no kids, but I come from a big family and have a nephew and five nieces I've been close to.

DH and BM split custody 50/50, trading off every Sunday. They get along fine and have been able to work together well. She and I have no problems and DH handles everything so I never have to deal with her.

Tags:

Pages