One of the things that bothers me about SS10 (really more DH) is food and drink. SS would take good or drink up to his room and then leave the container or cup or whatever there instead of returning it when through. I try to keep my mouth shut on most things but this was one I felt the need to speak up. I don't mind stuff in his room IF he's responsible. He's demonstrated he's not. If he spills something, he leaves it. He had never brought something back to the kitchen unless told to. I have a fear of that leading to bugs or to the dogs getting something that could make them sick.

So, SS10 is with BM this week. DH is out of town for work and I'm staying with family (we're in the process of moving). Long story. Anyway, SS has done virtual school this year.

Today, DH and BM are told SS has not logged in to participate in class all week so they've locked him out of his account. He's been doing his assignments (mostly A and one B )but hasn't been there for class.

Lovely.

After the yay moment this morning -- ugh!

Last night DH made one of his chili recipes. When we went over the week's meal plan, we decided on it and having it for two dinners. Great.

Today, SS comes down for lunch. I was in the next room so didn't hear their discussion but DH asked if it was ok to microwave one of our dish sets. I said no. He decided to use the others. SS had tomato soup yesterday and there was some left over so I figured that was what he was having.

Nope.

I'm sure many others here struggle with this and would love to hear advice or how you handle it.

So many things about SS10 and just things that happen when he's here annoy me. I struggle with it and do my best not to let it show. I know that wouldn't do my relationship with SS or DH any good.

1) SS has developed a habit of swishing any beverage around in his mouth before swallowing. Like it's mouthwash. He'll even do it with ice cream (apparently holds it in his mouth until it melts). The sound absolutely grates on my nerves, like nails on a chalkboard.