I work, He works, I do 80% of the house and yard work, the other 20% is divided between him and mostly my kids. He wants to enjoy his days off. I'd like to enjoy my days off but in all honesty I'm a mom/Stepmom (when do we get days off?). He wants or wants to do something and I support him. I want something the answer is "No" and if I really want it I have to find a way to get it for myself. If I want to go do something and am told to go do to but always left feeling like I have to do whatever it is by myself. Its worse when the step kids are with us.

Why can't they leave the stuff that isn't their alone? My kids have been raised in an environment where if its not yours you don't play with it. His kids have not been raised with the same rule or respect but by god if someone touches there stuff call the national guard!!! I am not by ANY means rich. I cant afford to replace everything that gets wrecked. I was raised that you take care of the things you have so that when you need it you have it.

With everything going on between him and his ex and the new challenges of being a step parent I've decided to take a step back. I no longer want to see or hear anything about his ex (I want to stay out of it). As a step parent I read an article by focus on the family about the different roles of the step parent (the babysitter, the aunt/uncle, the friend, and the parent) and how relationship between step parent and step child builds and changes over time. So after this I am also taking a step back from being the step parent.

I love all my kids (step kids and biological). My youngest stepson is allergic to eggs and nuts. When I met my spouse literally 6 meals were being made every day. One that was safe for the youngest to eat and one that everyone else ate. I felt so bad for the youngest having to watch everyone else eat things like pizza, cake, burgers etc while he literally ate the same handful of meals day in, day out. Oatmeal, mac n cheese, chicken, fish, rice and of course fruits and veggies. When I moved in this all changed. gone are the days of making two meals at each meals time.