I love all my kids (step kids and biological). My youngest stepson is allergic to eggs and nuts. When I met my spouse literally 6 meals were being made every day. One that was safe for the youngest to eat and one that everyone else ate. I felt so bad for the youngest having to watch everyone else eat things like pizza, cake, burgers etc while he literally ate the same handful of meals day in, day out. Oatmeal, mac n cheese, chicken, fish, rice and of course fruits and veggies. When I moved in this all changed. gone are the days of making two meals at each meals time. My youngest step son now gets to eat everything we eat because I modify the recipes to exclude his allergies. At four years of age he has eaten his first burger, grill cheese, hot dog, chocolate cake, cinnamon buns etc. (talk about a happy kid and he loves baking what we call D***** safe breads with me). I have been doing this for 10mths and I am happy to report that his birth mom is finally doing the same but heart broken every time the boys come here bragging about all the D***** safe baking she has now started doing that I've been doing since my kids and I moved. I know they go back to her and tell her everything we do (either freely or because she questions them)because within 24hrs of being back with her she starts giving us crap via text message. I can only imagine she feels like I am trying to show her up or something with what the boys likely say to her but It hurts and feels like they don't appreciate the changes I made that made the little guy have better equality in the home. Does anyone else experience this sort of thing and how's the best away to handle it. I don't feel right telling the kids we don't want to hear what happens at their moms house or what she does for or with them.