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Submitted by Cover1W on Sun, 04/07/2019 - 7:46am

LoL you guys!

At DH's sister's place, it is gorgeous!

I'm having a good time, not great, but better here. SD15 is being goid, on good behavior so far, but the veneer is cracking. 

She pretty much is acting like a normal teen, but since she's in high school she is grown up now (her words). Her diet has not changed (all carbs and two eggs in five days...NO teeth brushed). DH had to take the lead in food finding which p*ssed him off after he had to deal with them. DH sister and I decided on dinner in tonight since there's so many food issues. 

3 days to go

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Submitted by Cover1W on Sat, 03/30/2019 - 8:19pm

...DH couldn't say no. "It would be worse if she didn't go, this is the better option."

Then tried to gaslight me for not "being supportive" of his decision.

But I held strong, did not agree, reiterated that I will not put up with a crap attitude and that it's up to him to inform his sister. And I will not put on a fake smile and pretend all is wonderful, but I will not let it ruin my trip.

Effing Disney.

Of course she could just not show but I think she will be there.

1 week away

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Submitted by Cover1W on Wed, 03/27/2019 - 1:14pm

So DH had a little text exchange with OSD yesterday evening, letting her know she needed to spend some time at our home this coming weekend before the trip to engage with us and talk with him.  Her answer, "?" and "I have engaged with (both of you)..."  then said she was simply too busy all weekend. Her comment about engagement is laughable because she hasn't spoken one word to me in a year and I think her idea of "engagement" is DH being in her presence. He then replied, directly "Do you want to come on this trip?"  Zero reply - her other texts were close together.

1.5 weeks away

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Submitted by Cover1W on Mon, 03/25/2019 - 3:12pm

From leaving on our trip and DH is still trying to decide if SD15 is going or not. 

DH told me after his dinner (!) and a movie with her that she was rude, silent, entitled, full of herself, and over the top dismissive. Didn't thank him for dinner, popcorn (she just stood in line without him until he came over and bought it for her - didn't even ask), his time, driving her, anything.  Told him she wanted to go on the trip only for ONE thing (that would be about 1.5 hours long, max.) over 10 days.  And complained about the travel schedule. 

Trip Up?

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Submitted by Cover1W on Mon, 03/18/2019 - 2:17pm

Sooooooo, DH received a few texts from BM this weekend and one doozy from OSD(15) as well.

 

BM apparently told him she and OSD ‘had a lot of talks’ this weekend about the situation with DH.

She mentioned that OSD’s ‘decision’ was ‘the best she could offer at this time.’

 

OSD’s text was basically telling DH he could take her to a movie this coming Saturday.

 

DH was NOT HAPPY.  BUT on the plus side, we were able to have a really good conversation about it.

Disengaging is...

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Submitted by Cover1W on Sun, 03/03/2019 - 10:42am

When DH talks about OSD I say, 'ok' or 'that's nice' or 'good for you.'  That's it.

I got out one of the frozen pizzas for dinner the other night and he really, really wanted the other one for no explanation. Then I realized the one I chose is the ONLY kind OSD likes. He has it stored for her just in case. So I told him, if you want the other one then YOU can put this back (it was still covered in plastic) and make the other one while I shower. (Put it back on him if he gives me decision power but then undermining me) I ended up making the one I wanted in the first place.

THE dinner meeting

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Submitted by Cover1W on Sun, 02/24/2019 - 11:24am

I know you are all dying to know. LOL!

So a restaurant is agreed upon and DH and I have discussed an exit plan and how to be on same page well beforehand. He seems nervous, I am surprisingly not (I look fantastic, and don't GAF). YSD13 is also coming, oddly.

We arrive first. YSD comes in waves, says hi as normal. After some delay BM comes in with OSD15 at her heels, arms crossed, almost hiding behind BM. OSD doesn't greet either of us, and physically turned from DH when he approached. She sits as far away from him as possible. 

OSD - trip on

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Submitted by Cover1W on Tue, 02/12/2019 - 12:17pm

So many of you know the saga of my OSD.  Has spoken to DH one time since April, in order to blame him for everything she thinks is wrong. Otherwise it's been silence (through his birthday, father's day, holidays, her birthday, etc.) from her.

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