SD13 had a big event tonight. DH paid for her classes (not cheap!) and I helped arrange things and drive her to/from part of the time. 

And of couse BM was there. And of course SD gave us the shaft. And told BM in front of everyone that she wanted to go home with her. Then broke down in tears in our car. Didn't say a word to us when we got home, still crying, said she was tired and going to bed. Got on the phone with her mom immediately. Like we were not in existence.

Been chatting with SD13 recently about sitting in the front seat of the car. She refuses to do it even for super short trips to the store. Her last excuse was that it's illegal. So I checked the laws. Told her tonight that here is what I found...explained that sitting in the front at least sometimes is important to understand how vehicles move and help with situational awareness when she starts drivers ed. Her sister couldn't wait to sit in front...

So trip overall was about what I expected. OSD was grumpy, complainy, food aversiony, hatey, and just unpleasant to be around. Never brushed her teeth although she did shower, but not often enough. I overheard her say to YSD that she used to like flying but not anymore and that it's too hard to get to Europe. Even better sweetie because it's never going to happen with us again. She couldn't name one thing she liked when asked.

DHsis had a good chat with DH this morning and essentially said the same things I have, but from her perspective. It was good. She also totally got me, like, it's so stressful having her here and her attitude is over the top. Imagine living with that I added. "God." Was the response. Anyway OSD, I think, still doesn't know we are going away tonight. DH tried blaming me for not telling her...um no.

Now OSD is throwing up ... Oh joy 

Will update you later...more family arrived.